So, I have a situation I'm at my wits end with. My youngest son's girlfriend. I do not like her. Which should tell you something because I get along with most everyone. But she sets off too many red flags for me.
A little background. My youngest had never had a social life to speak of. He didn't hang out with friends after school. Not saying he was without friends but he's not the social butterfly my oldest was with friends always at our house or him gone somewhere. He works. He's responsible. And this girl has locked her sights in on him. He's 25 and this is his first serious relationship. She's never been married and has 2 kids. She's also little bit older than him.
It didn't bother me so much at first about the 2 kids cuz I was a single mother with 2 children. However, they we're conceived in marriages that didn't work out. Which I hold myself accountable for that. I thought marriage was about happiness. I know better now.
My problem with her she's a manipulator and a liar. And pretty unhinged.
I've tried talking to him. But he doesn't seem to care and says He loves her. I've backed off from talking to him about it so much cuz I don't want to push him away.
But these are some of the things I've tried to point out to him.
- She can't hold a job for more than a couple of months at a time. Since her and my son has been together she's lost 3 jobs. That just made no sense to me. When I worked, I was a loyal employee. Both of my boys have had the same job since they started working. They did swap companies only cuz where they started went out of business. Anyways, from what I was hearing it was everyone else's fault not hers as to why she couldn't keep a job. So finally I went to talk to her boss at the last job she lost. The lady told me she was hostile to customers and her coworkers. She also sent me a text she had with this girl concerning another coworker she was having issues with.
The lady also told me since letting her go the drama has stopped. - Next, let's talk about his picture.
The story behind this picture is she didn't like this child's momma. This picture hung on our fridge by a little magnet. We started noticing the magnet was across the childs face. We'd move it only to notice later it was covering her face again. This went on until my oldest son (Who owns the house), left a note saying quit covering her face. So what did she do?!? Scratched the picture. I mean really??
Not her house. She's a guest cuz she can't make it on her own and none of us wants her homeless with 2 kids.. And she chooses to act like this!?
- She lies just to talk. I can not tell you how many lies I've caught her in. Over stupid stuff. No reason.
I think I have PTSD still from one of my oldest ex's. Crazy bitch tried to chop his arm off with a sword. Her crazy was from drugs and honestly it was an accident. The sword she held was upside down in the sheath. When she swung it slid out and cut him. She wasn't swinging the actual sword at him. My youngest son's girlfriend doesn't do drugs. She doesn't have that as an excuse.
There's so much more I could say but I'm going to stop for now. Far as I'm concerned I'm ready for him to move out. They're looking for a place. Maybe then he'll see. I just hope she doesn't drag him down or ruin his life. She loves being a victim.
It's been everything I can do to not put my hands on her. Not that I'm some great fighter haha but I'm not one to just sit and be quiet either. She knows I don't like her. Plus, I've already warned her she puts her hands on him mines going on to her! I'll damn sure make her a victim if she's not careful and gladly suffer the consequences for it!
So, What would you do in this situation?