Let me give you a simple example - I met a lot of people over the years, especially online since I spend most of my time in front of my computer, and one problem a lot of those people had was being liked by someone who was extremely annoying and stressful.
I think we all had to deal with that at some point in our life - there's someone we know that likes us, and they take it too far. They create drama, they complain too much, and they try to kinda force us into liking them, which never really happens.
The problem with this kind of situation comes when you refuse to get away from the guy or girl who creates that drama, who doesn't leave you alone, out of fear of "hurting" them, and you keep telling yourself that despite the fact that you have other reasons.
Now, I'm not saying this applies to everyone out there, but I'm sure we can all agree with the fact that some people don't get rid of those annoying attention seekers simply because they enjoy all the drama around them and they like having someone to constantly want their attention.
While that's an okay thing to want, lying to yourself and believing you're actually staying in that situation for the other person, in order to not hurt them, can be harmful. You can live thinking that and hurt both yourself and the person who likes you because you don't even know what your reasons are for staying.
Maybe the other person acts the way she or he acts because they actually believe you like them simply because you stay with them a lot, and while you want them to stop with the attention seeking, you don't really want to leave, which is exactly the reason why they think you truly like them.
Same thing can happen with something like work. You may have a job that you hate and you go there every single day because you think you need money in order to survive. You tell yourself that and you force yourself to do the same things every day in order to not be left with nothing.
But maybe that's not the reason you go to work every day. Maybe you could save some money, enough to live for a few months without going to work, quit, and then try to find something you actually enjoy doing. Maybe the real reason you go to work every day is because you're afraid of quitting because you don't think anyone else will hire you.
Not realizing what your real reasons are, and not doing anything to improve your life can get you in a state of permanent sadness and you'll be so frustrated and so sad all the time that you'll end up hurting the people around you.
Knowing what your reasons are, realizing that money is not the real issue but the fear of trying something new, may actually help you change your life. If you want to be 100% certain that you'll get the job you like once you quit your current job, something you can do is to find the job you want, go to an interview, and once you are officially hired, you can quit the job you dislike.
Sometimes it's hard to figure out exactly why we do certain things. However, a lot of us don't even try. We just think that the reasons we have in mind are actually why we do certain things, which, in some situations, is false. Trying to think about your actions and about your motives once in a while may reveal something new about yourself, something you didn't even know was there.