Throughout life we confront ourselves with events that are most striking, influencing our actions and decisions day to day. We may be negatively conditioned, creating a pattern of disabling behavior. Of course, the negative significant events generate us some kind of emotional pain, usually translated in the sense of anguish and despair. The smallest bore can leave us on the brink of a nervous breakdown, or a tear in the corner of the eye. The sadness settles from one moment to another, graying us any kind of activity that can be done.
Probably this scenario is familiar to you. If so, which may be contributing to your suffering is your inability to let go of your negative feelings and thoughts. Accepting and learning to let go of your emotional pain, you can be able to withstand the bad time that may be facing, and allow yourself to focus some of your energy improvement strategies, without feeling diminished or crushed by emotional pain.
"Courage, sometimes it is letting go. Stop to stretch, in vain, to bring the line back. It's allow fly without lead us together. It accepts that hope has long been detached from the dream. It is accepting all hurt to bloom again. It blesses the love, that there, that we do not achieve more. "
In my explanation highlights three key points:
1 - To identify the time in which your problem manifests itself in the form of feelings and negative and / or unpleasant thoughts.
2 - Separate the problem (anxiety and hopelessness) of the person himself. The person is not the problem.
3 - When the problem started, go to guide their decisions on consciousness (strategies, techniques and concepts learned) and not according to the problem. In other words, act conscientiously putting into action behaviors and activities that promote well-being.
Leaving the negative cycle
When we find that emotional pain, malaise, anxiety or depressed state took care of us, even without a strong reason, our minds tend to start to comment on negative critical tone about ourselves . Here begins the negative cycle that can effectively make up for their biggest problem. That is, your less good condition that could be temporary, given that he could not accept it and separate it (separate from the identity) gained life and began to condition all areas of life.
Example: I do not feel good today. I feel dejected. Over time I have come to feel depressed, and today is not a good day. My inner voice triggers some very bizarre thoughts, after some time I turn me to these thoughts and I feel even worse:
"What's wrong with me? All is well in my life and I'm still depressed. I am a loser. "
"Oh, great. Another day I will not do anything. I'm so lazy. "
"If people really knew how I am, they would not believe a word I said."
"I'm not worth anything."
"I am weak."
identifies with this experience? You can not be depressed, but may have been anxious, worried, resentful or stressed. Or maybe you feel distressed, confused, undisciplined and unfocused. Or maybe you're going through a difficult time due to a number of reasons. And your inner voice lay it down, and eventually you feel that entered a vicious cycle.
Do not fear their harrowing experience
Instead of resisting our depressed mood, anxiety or emotional pain, trying to rid ourselves of discomfort, a process that only connects us even more suffering, instead, we must make room for the discomfort we experience and allow them to manifest in us.
It is useful, allow yourself to live your experience. For example, when you feel depressed or anxious, try to understand what part of your body feels physical changes. It is in the area of the throat? Chest? Neck? In the stomach? Whatever part of the body where you feel your discomfort, allow yourself to feel it. Watch it. Create a space for your event. Stay temporarily with their pain, distress or anxiety. Then accepted. Then, orient their attention towards learning to deal with their feelings and thoughts, regulating them, until they can decrease or be extinguished.
The acceptance and detachment allows you can continue your day to day, even when not feeling well. The other benefit is that you no longer use much of their energy against yourself, also failing to resist the natural ebb and flow of life.