I wrote to a friend today about coin we used to have talks about. We'll call it "shitcoin" or SHT.
I asked what does he think about his decision to HODL this SHT.
To my surprised, he said that I am laughing at his loss expense and that I am being an asshole. I say surprise cause this is not what I thought I was doing. In fact, I am feeling pretty much under the weather due to all this shitstorm on the markets. Why would I want to laugh at someone...
In fact, I realized that this guy thinks that I am actually using him as a sort of pinata to express some of my own anger and negative feelings these days. Like, telling someone "I TOLD YOU SO!!" would bring me some satisfaction that my portofolio can't. That he think that I am this small of a person that would so such thing. Is this guy even my friend if he thinks so low of me?
I started to furiously write a long angry reply myself. "fuck" was used repeatedly and let's not even mention the rest. But then..I stopped.
Looking at what I wrote, I was disgusted with my self.
After all the talk about being in control of your own life, feelings and action..to be so reactive? Can I not stop a second to put myself in someone else's shoes and maybe ask...is this really an aggresive/mean action or is it something else?
We're all in this together. We're all affected more or less. Even if you do not care about the price, the incertitude and storm will have you feeling STUFF. Good, bad, mostly bad..but you are in a state of some emotional charge. And you are bound to have some unexpected reactions. I know I am. I can only presume we - save for the most veterans - are in the same boat.
What would getting angry and yelling at someone get you?
Remember, this is a friend. a person you actually like and respect. Why not try something else?
Take a moment to breath. A moment to think. A second to relate and a minute to write or say something back. Who knows, maybe you'll see it clearly.
I wish my friends would do this to me.
I realized that by our history, with me being adamant about selling SHT and him saying it's a good HODL my comment might have come as haughty. I said I'm sorry. I am actually interested in how people deal with this kinds of loss and I respect his thoughts. We talked and we're going for depressed burgers sometimes this week.
All can be well.