I totally agree! When my first husband passed away 5 years ago from cancer at just 33, I ate my feelings and slept a lot. I've healed a lot emotionally and the extra 15lbs was the last grief hurdle to tackle (that I know of). My weight loss goal is simply to lose the extra fat from grief and gain back my muscle. I have a scale that read body fat percentage and muscle mass percentage. I've been working hard and have lost a whole percentage of fat and gained over a whole percent in muscle! Woot woot for being strong!