It is so sad and dishearten to tell and think about it that some of the Filipino Families including us are only being reunited in some important family celebrations/gatherings like weddings, birthdays and death of a member of the immediate family.
It came into my realization just this week after my grandmother's interment last Saturday that our family were just being reunited completely when this kind of unexpected event happens.
Unplanned yet everyone is present.
Sorrowful yet it brings rejoinment. My grandmothers death binds us together as one family. Although it is hard for us to let her go, she won't let it happen without the unification of everyone.
She is the mother of my mother but she served and treated us not just her grandchildren. She is my second mother indeed. She filled up the love and care I never felt to my parents. Indeed, her love to us is unfailing and incomparably different. For us being her grandchildren, we never felt some bias treatment when it comes of giving attention and care to each of us.
This would be a great downcast to the whole family, lossing our dear grandmother isn't easy to her children and her immediately family.
It was just last February 15 when she left us after suffering for an illness at the age of 80. My Aunties and other relatives coming from different places abruptly went home upon knowing that my Lola is already gone. And this made a way for everyone to go home and being reunited.
During my Lola's wake, although everyone is at the state of mourn, we cannot deny the fact that we were rejoicing in the whole time. We used to take selfies despite the others were busy entertaining the visitors, cooking and serving foods and snacks, etc while others were in sorrow because of my grandmothers'death.
These constitutes my happy family😍
This is my Lolo and his Children. For the first time of having a picture together.😍
We used everyday to overcome and delete those days and years we have never been in each other. Having jokes, jams and bonds in each member of the family is the only way for us to get out of sadness. Especially to my cousins, as if we never seen in sorrow because of the wide smile and laugh we did in everyday.
These were my crazy cousins. Crazier than me😭😅😅
It was just on the of the interment when I realized how is the feeling and its impact of lossing our best grandmother, for we will be missing her so much. For no one will serve and care for us in the time that we will be having our vacation and visit. For no one will care our Lolo. And everything that is being part of our routine.
These were photos during interment with a complete family pic together😍😢
A mixed emotion of happiness and sadness for Lola is gone yet we have to be happy since this was the very firsttime happened that we were all together for one reason that made as all sad😢
My Lolo and my Mothers' brother and sisters😍
My parents and my sisters, in-law and their children.
My abnormal crazy cousins..
My lola was burried at the farm near to the place where they resides. This would be the hardest part seeing her being burried. I cried and almost sobbed. Whenever I remember her and her goodness she shared to other people it always made my tears fall knowing how much I will miss her.
After the burial I and my cousins used to stay in the place where my Lola was burried..
Sorry guys I can't make it to the last part. I'll just end my family story here. Thanks for reading it.
The very great lesson I have learned and I can share to you is that life is so short that we cannot conclude when is our end. The best thing we all have to realize is that life has no limitations except for the one that we create. Maximizing the life experiences, sharing blessings with others and spending time with our love ones is the best in the lists to do. Donnot wait those time to come and you will regret of the things you don't ever did. Please keep touch with your families and love ones.
I should also reiterate this kind of wrong doing tradition that we have that we only intend to reunite during death of one member of the family. We should always be on our family's side. As long as it is possible, prioritize and spend time with our families.
Nothing will ever be good than being in the family. It is always for the goodness of everyone. Godbless!😘
Xoxo,
Renzil😍