You should be the controller of your life. Because it is your life, not anyone else's. Sometimes we feel that our closest ones are trying to run our life by telling a lot of things. Do this, do that, don't do this, don't do that, don't go there etc etc. And in most cases, we just follow them blindly. Do you ever think that why do you have to follow them always? Don't you have the consciousness to run your life, to do things? We all know how to carry on. Don't just let anyone control you. Don't think what others say about you. Don't even compare yourself with others. People will tell a lot of things and those really don't matter. Your loved ones have the right to tell you what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong. When you are doing something that you think is right, your loves ones can take that as wrong. You need to assess yourself time to time. Learn lessons from your mistakes and believe in yourself.