I've recently been coming across a lot of people around me who have made me realized that the one reason for which I can’t stand them is that they are generally disrespecting towards other people. This doesn’t mean that they talk rudely and don’t bother answering you, I am talking about the kind of disrespect that comes from within. There are a lot of examples. The thing is that we rarely point it out when it's being done to another person and take offense to it only when we are the ones it is being done to.
I’ve been feeling pretty off about such people lately. I don’t like it when someone younger doesn’t give space to someone elder in a bus, I don’t like it when someone doesn’t value the other time and opinion, I absolutely hate it when someone doesn’t respect other people’s privacy and I also hate it when it people think that it's their right to talk to other people however they want, just because they’re in a lower position than them.
The sad part is that we get to see this daily…. We see people getting bullied and people feeling worthless about themselves just because of a bunch of people disrespecting them. I am also a victim. I have been a victim for so long that now I get frustrated on my own self for feeling bad for myself. Maybe that’s what has been keeping me from truly growing up. Maybe that’s what has kept me from coming out of my shell and expressing my true self. Maybe that’s what has brought me to the point that I have been screaming inside for so long and now it feels like I'm ready to scream it out loud. I am the point that I just need a reason to literally throw it all out at once…
Why? The root cause is disrespect and disrespectful people…
How to deal with such people? I found out a few tips. Read on.
Tell them how you feel about it
The moment you feel disrespected or insulted, you must confront them. In fact, if you feel like you're too angry and feeling way too annoyed, give yourself some time, compose your thoughts and then tell them how you feel. You can correct the person in a polite way given that they understand the consequences and don’t plan to repeat it. Try to deliver your point s clearly as possible, without getting into an argument or physical fight. The more logical you will be, the less it will give them a chance to answer back.
Add a little Humor maybe?
You can be sarcastic if you want. You can also try to be funny if you feel like. Everybody has a different way of responding to situations. Some handle it sensitively, some handle with a little humor and some handle it aggressively. However, one of the best ways to ease up the situation and get your point though is by delivering your point in a light manner. I am not asking you to let it go as a joke. You have to know where you are drawing a line between humor and serious talk.
Start a conversation
Instead of judging the person right away, take a minute to understand that person may have been brought up in an environment where they don’t know how to treat people with respect. The truth is that a lot of people in the society that we live in really don’t know some basic ethics. People are not aware of it and one of the reasons is also that they themselves don’t know their own rights and how they should be treated. So try to start a conversation with them and make them understand what you find offensive and why is it wrong to do or say so. Who knows, you might be giving them a new perspective to think.
Point it out in Private first
I think one of the most effective and nice ways is to talk to a person privately rather than pointing out something in public. Going public about a matter is only suitable when the person keeps repeating it even after you have made it clear to them that you don’t like it. In fact, after several private attempts, I think it becomes mandatory to point them in public just so people around them also take part and that person might feel ashamed only then. Any person that is doing wrong to you or treating you rudely gives you the right to confront them so do it in private just so they don’t feel humiliated and understand your point better.
