We human beings are interesting creatures and I simply love observing my own kind. You should do it too, it’s quite fun! The way we interact with each other and function inside the boundaries of so called societal norms is quite fascinating!

We are all aware of and follow the laws of our countries that dictate what we can and cannot do but not many people are aware of, at least consciously, about the whole set of unsaid societal expectations that we are constantly trying to fulfil sub-consciously.

I mean that’s why we have different behaviours when we are alone, when we are with our best buds, when we are with ‘normal’ friends and when we are dealing with complete strangers. Our behaviour also depends according to the place and occasion. I mean, you are “expected” to behave a certain way in all these different settings.

The expectations don’t end with our behaviours though, and include all aspects of life and work, even the way we look. Unfortunately, we have set some really high standards for our own selves which are impossible to reach, which promotes a lot of fakeness in the world that we are all witnessing on a daily basis, all just to reach the “perfect” human image that society has created.

Today, I am going to tell you that such a human doesn’t exist. That’s because all of us are flawed in our own beautiful ways and trying to be perfect just to satisfy this invisible society’s expectations, is meaningless.

You Don’t Have To Be Right All The Time

You might have noticed all the arguments that people have on the internet, in somebody’s comments section, trying to prove themselves right by any means possible. Really! People argue about the smallest of things.

This happens in real life too and it’s always someone trying to prove that they are right. I think that is because, we assume that being proven wrong shows that we are somehow stupid and so, we try to defend our opinions.

I guess that’s just what society has made us believe even though we are all aware that nobody can be right every single time. If we all just accepted the fact that we can make mistakes too, and just say so, there would be a lot less heat in the world.

So, the next time someone tells you, you are wrong and gives a proper, logical explanation why, just admit that you made a mistake and thank him or her for enlightening you about it. You’re not perfect and that’s OK!

Beauty Is What’s On The Inside

This one is really messed up. Everyone says that we shouldn’t judge a book by it’s cover and that looks don’t matter, while the reality is very, very different. We as a society, have placed some really unreachable expectations about the way we look.

This is what has led to the creation of multi-billion dollar industries that allow us to mask our true identities, our true selves and show to the world a fake image of our non-existent, perfect self.

Shouldn’t things like personality, behaviour, mentality and attitude matter more? Why do we place such a high value on our looks while we would be better off developing these other traits about ourself?

So, the next time you have a slightly dull face in the morning or have signs of bags under your eyes, when your hair is not perfect and your body is not perfectly toned, tell your self that you are not perfect and that’s OK!

You Don’t Need To Have A Lot of Friends

Another area where I see people being judged a lot and them feeling insecure is about their social life or their social circles. In our society, people who like to spend time alone or live a quiet life are seen strangely.

They are automatically judged as people who are not liked by anyone or people who are misfits and that something is wrong with them, while the reality is nothing like that at all! Having a large number of friends proves nothing and definitely says nothing about you.

These days people have hundreds of friends on social media, but they are just names on a screen. When you actually need someone in life, I bet only a few will show up, if even that! So, why boast that number when in reality it doesn’t even mean anything? Just to show to society that you have a healthy social life and that you are liked?

Remember, even one true friend in your life is enough and if you have 2 or 3 like them, it is perfect. Smaller circles have stronger bonds, so don’t go chasing numbers to prove anything to anybody.