I think a huge difference in your view and mine is that you perceive that we have far more control over ourselves than I do. Our deepest evolutionary programming, such as male hierarchy and competition, just IS. It can’t be consciously changed (except by evolution over thousands of years). Attempts to shame or suppress masculine traits have very negative consequences (just as attempts to suppress female traits have). We are far better off dealing with that reality than letting politics and our personal moral preferences delude us into thinking that we as a society can be (or God forbid already are) very different from our more primitive ancestors. Every culture at every location at every time has basically looked the same (when it comes to male/female traits and preferences), and to suggest that (with just enough will power) we can change that as a result of some great moral imperative seems naively utopianistic. Utopian fantasies are almost invariably harmful. Every great evil the world has seen was preceded by some utopian fantasy.