The relationship between men and women are two sides of the same coin, two peas in a pod. We are the yin to the others yang, the above to the other's below. Both men & women come lacking in something that we need help in completing, something we are not able to entirely fulfill with just our own efforts. The most blatant effect of our hindrance is our combined lack of emotional & mental completion. Women need men for mental completion just as men need women for emotional completion. There is no two ways around it.
This is how it has to be. This is the grand plan, the master design. For instance, women come with wonderful attributes such as compassion, nurturing, empathy as well as neuroticism like no other. Despite the many attributes of women, none stands out among the rest more than women want everything. If you have read my previous writings you would be acquainted with my concrete theory. I like to say Disney did not create the princess who wants and expects everything, they only personified it. By women wanting everything this attitude, this philosophy of mentality carries over to women's mindset and thinking patterns. A woman's mindset and thinking pattern leads to racing thoughts, & not thinking in a linear fashion. I've been told by women on numerous occasions, however much men think women think x10. It was shocking to hear this and it took time for me to process why women allow themselves to be drowned in thought and emotion.
Men are the resolution. Self-realized men tend to temper women's neuroticism. These kinds of men guide women's thinking back to being grounded to what really matters. So much so women have excelled in the workforce by taking a page out of men's playbook and the good women return the favor by guiding us to the rationalization of emotional connection.
Let's be real, men can often lack emotional wholeness. Men do not find it necessary to be emotionally aware until we meet a woman we really like and sometimes we just learn it too late. Men as a whole haven't been proficient long enough to understand it and by the time we do again it's too late. The woman would have given so much of herself that she has nothing left to give and hasn't received the equivalent exchange in the relationship. She then will first checkout emotionally, then physically, then she is gone. Most men know this story well.
A realization should then be born because men do not for the most part bother to see the importance of emotion in today's world. In a lot of ways this lack of emotion benefits men to the harsh realities of the world and business. Things get cutthroat, sometimes its dog eat dog. It's only when a man meets the right girl that he begins to soften his stance, he softens his heart. Without women, men's hearts would always pump cold. A man can only traverse so far without the help of the woman to show him emotional connection.
If men don't understand the emotional context in which a woman is coming from, she has the tendency to shut down and act differently. She feels that she is not understood. This is where the disconnect takes place many times. In general women have a difficult time explaining what they are feeling in the current moment because half the time women are not sure what they
are feeling, are processing what they are feeling, and what they are feeling is ever changing.
This is an area men can help women by calibrating what women are feeling to the logic behind why they are feeling it and in return women can help men learn the importance of emotion. Separately we are parts of a whole that cannot have it all but together maybe we can.