My new years is going well so far. No major illness issues. A lot of difficulties since 2018 and even before. So much learned lessons from all the downs. A lot of issues and a lot of heartaches.
Most of which I cannot explain about, but I am fairly sure that this is the same with many of you. I didn't want to blow fireworks and make a celebration same as every other year. I wanted to move forward in the direction that I want to be in.
This is what I take from my downs:
• Consistency.
The most important of them all. It is to be disciplined and know what to do. Going hard all the time without backing off have made me fall off. It is about doing enough to get results and making sure I am CONSISTENTLY CONSISTENT.
• Roll with the punch
Verbally, it is your own people, your family, friends and your loved ones that will hurt you. They will put you down. Their words may be the biggest obstacle in your goals. I used to deep down start to believe what they say. That was my biggest problem. Now I know I have to roll with those blows, and not take it flush. Life is a fight and you have to know how to take a hit.
• Learn when to say no.
Others will have themselves in their mind when they speak to you before they have you in their mind. I used to try to say no but when friendship and relationship got worse because of it, I would panic and give in.
With much more experience in life, I have know that no matter how hard you try, you cannot keep others happy regardless. Knowing and feeling that it is much easier to say no. It hurt when it happened, but it is exactly what I needed.
• Other people's opinion does not define me, I DO !!!
People are so quick to criticise and tell you what you are and aren't capable of. I would try not to let it get to me but sometimes it would. This is something I need to do it really well.
My parents didn't want me to marry my wife because she is short and few other reasons. I remember when some people said I was too much of a coward to get married. I let it get to me a lot that still affects me inside sometimes. Now that I am married, this is in my mind that no matter what they say, it does not mean that it is true.
• Carrying ora of self confidence.
Realising this was probably the most important aspect of myself that I discovered. Mindset can uplift you or down you into a chaotic depression.
The mind is so powerful. Having that mind of self confidence can make you achieve so much more. Itself, it can cure depression. When you have this ora of confidence in everything you do in life you will do better.
I always loved boxing for this reason. I love and admired how Tyson Fury who was in a messy depression and was in a bad place, came back after 3 years of inactivity, and yet when it came to face Deontay Wilder, he did better than what anyone expected him to do.
It is because he had so much self confidence it was almost ridiculous. And as I was writing this,at the beginning I had a hint of depression, but now after talking about self confidence I am actually feeling better.
Thanks for reading.