I believe that many people know the struggle with money. Sometimes a lot is coming in but we also have dark months where we have problems paying the electricity bill. Money controls us and our emotions. If you imagine the situation like a diagram it would look nearly the same as the Ripple diagram of the last month… Going up and coming down
Families often have discussions over money. They used to argue a lot and sometimes partners even break up with each other. It could even destroy the whole family. And all that trouble just because they cant master the inner game of money.
Money problems are not economic problems
They are not business problems
They are first and foremost psychological problems.
This might be a little difficult for people to wrap their mind around because when you have financial problems and you are struggling with money, in no matter what kind of way, it is not getting fixed by getting an infusion of cash. I always hear from people
Oh If I only had a lot of cash or would win in the lottery, my life would be so much better and we wont have any problems anymore. Cash would solve everything.
Actually thinking this is a little illogical. Because the problems are psychological and stuck in your mind.
Some of you may got a huge amount of cash and did that solve all your problems? The problems are going further and just taking it to a next level. They wont disappear. I read a great example appropriate to this context.
Dysfuncional relationships
If you have a pattern of dysfunctional relationships the problem is not the people you relating to. The way how you think ( This girlfriend wasn´t right for me - This boyfriend did not match with my character ) No, its an inner game problem. You are going to keep having those bad relationship problems over and over and over again until you realized that you need to turn inwards and really take a look at your beliefs, attitudes and your whole paradigm of relationships.
And the same thing goes with money. Money is an emotional problem. We may think it is a rational problem and we would say either we have money or we have not. Some are poor and some are rich. Either the economy is good or is bad. Or your business is doing good or is doing bad. But money is very emotional. Its like a religion or politics. These are topics where people get heated up or getting very emotional about and of course thats why there are so many problems in these domains of life.
When we get emotional, we tend to make errors and we tend to go unconscious where we cant see how our action backfires on us. A big influence in our lives is our family. How we grew up with money, how our parents and siblings handled money and stuff like that. Its is getting difficult when partners have different philosophies about money. They tend to argue a lot and as I mentioned earlier, families also tend to get destroyed. Maybe you live in these pattern how you grow up with money or you are totally working against them.
If you have not the right amount of money you wish for, you´re getting told - You don't have the right job. You don't own the right business etc. etc…. These obstacles are just illusions. In fact you should turn yourself inwards and take a look inside of your core attitudes and paradigms about money and THEN you might be able to solve all your money problems.
Get the inner game right !
I am a big fan of psychological and spiritual videos. A few weeks ago I found actualized.org - amazing content and very informative. This is where I found the headline for my post and the inspiration to talk about this topic. Money is a huge problem for many of us and we need to fix that in order to live a happier life. I hope this was a little helpful for anyone who is reading this.
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Love, Soldier