"Remember children, for every exit there is also an entrance." - Milligan
The society has a major impact in our lives whether we except it or try to avoid it. We´ve been taught to look a certain way in order to be accepted by other people.
SKINNY = anorexic
THICK = obese
VIRGIN = too good
NON-VIRGIN = slut
FRIENDLY = fake
QUIET = rude
Society will always try to change us and make us feel uncomfortable about ourselves. I have posted a blog about how to be unique and this is actually a great topic to start with. Teenagers these days are definitely scared to be theirselves! If you would have a look at most girls from the age 13 to at least 18, they all have the same style, attitude, the way they walk, handle things etc. Thats because society tells them how to do it. I´ll give you some examples from beauty "gurus" on social media.
Huda Beauty
Huda Kattan is a blogger & make-up artist turned into a business woman. She has over 21 million followers on Instagram, over 1.3 million Followers on Facebook and nearly 2 million subscriber on Youtube. So with more than 24 million supporter, she is one of the biggest influencer on social media! Lets have a look at her appearance - big lips, bright eyes, much make-up, tiny nose, flawless skin, fake fingernails, perfect hair and no wrinkles at the age of 33.
Kim Kardashian West
Kim Kardashian is maybe the biggest influence to young women! With more than 102 million followers on Instagram, 30 million likes on Facebook and nearly 55 million followers on Twitter makes her the brightest sky in the beauty industry. What does she look like ? big lips, bright eyes, flawless skin, high cheek bones, no wrinkles at the age of 36, tiny nose, perfect straight hair and bronzed skin.
Kylie Jenner
Kylie Jenner is the youngest sister of Kim Kardashian. Of course she also turned into an influencer at a young age since her whole family got popular during their own TV show - Keeping Up With The Kardashians. She has over 97 million followers on Instagram which makes her a huge influence on others. Kylie is pretty successful with her own brand Kylie Cosmetics. Her company has made $420 million in retail sales in less than 18 months and she just turned 19! I am actually very impressed but I want to focus on her appearance right now - big lips, bright eyes, flawless skin, high cheek bones, tiny nose, silky smooth hair, a lot of make-up and an edgy thin.
Amrezy
Amra Olevič is a very talented make-up artist living in Los Angeles. She has 5.4 million followers on Instagram which means she is pretty successfulion doing what she loves - beauty! Her appearance is the same as of the women I mentioned above - full lips, a lot of make-up, high cheek bones, silky smooth hair, tiny nose and no wrinkles at all.
I could mention a few more but I guess you understand what I try to tell you right now. These women above are far away from being ugly. All of them are pretty in their own ways and also pictures with no make-up on aren´t even that bad. As far as I am able to judge their personalities through social media, some of them are struggling with the pressure being such a thriving person in the society and others are actually living their dream. But are these the right people to look up to? Its always about having the biggest lips, straightest and silkiest hair, tiniest nose and being better in all categories which they brought up by themselves. Counting those 4 personalities together, round about 300 million people are subscribed to their profiles which means millions of young girls chose them as an idol. Not to mention that most of those influencers also got boob jobs, butt implants, lip injections etc. I am definitely not a fighter against plastic surgery, if someone is really unhappy with their look and there is no way to naturally fix it, I am open for every decision and say go for it! But I am going to show you pictures of those individuals BEFORE they got surgeries and make-up lessons.
Amra Oliveč
Kylie Jenner
Kim Kardashian West
Huda Kattan
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Well, I think that all of them were amazingly beautiful and attractive women! It wasnt really a "shock" for me seeing the before and after pictures because these women had nothing to hide. Small lips, bigger nose, curly hair. Who cares? This is YOU! Its unique, special and no one will ever look the same again.
Why I am talking about those influencers is just because I want to protect the next generation, our children. Plastic surgeries have been getting viral and also girls under 18 are starting to cut theirselves into pieces just to look like their idols. Social media has created filters so you can hide your blemishes, uneven skin texture, dark circles or filter to brighten your eyes, pumping your lips or even change your skin tone. My friend 
In my opinion we should start educating our kids to read more often, to love theirselves how they were born, to be confident, enjoy their talents for example playing a music instrument or doing dance classes like I did.
I am not saying that the look isnt important. Our society is built on the appearance and yes, you should look neatly and cultivated but still be yourself. Now since Steemit is growing faster and faster, we get the chance to be the new influencer in this world. We have the choice to make a better life especially for the next generation.
Of course I´m not a mother yet but I still have a voice. I got to teach kids starting at the age of 4 - teenagers are asking me for advices and as I said, Steemit is such a huge opportunity in many ways. There is so much more than just "beauty".
Its okay to be yourself, it´s okay to wear not the newest clothes from the store, it´s okay to go out without make-up, it´s okay to be natural!
I recently read a quote which made me thinking about my life too!
"She needs make-up to cover up because society taught her who she is, isn´t enough"
To be honest with you, this touched my heart. So many girls are starting to cover their faces with make-up at an age where I still played with cars and dolls in our garden not thinking about beauty standards at all! What has changed? I dont want my kids to be scared showing who they really are, going through painful surgeries just not to look like who they truly are. Why cant we change society to love yourself and being different is COOL ?
I am pretty sure that most of my readers agree with what I am writing today. I have been around social media for a few years now, even if I havent owned an account by myself but I still checked whats "hot" and what is "not". The tendency of teenagers doing surgery is rising. Doesn´t matter if its about boob implants, lip injections, nose jobs etc. As I said earlier, I agree that some people are doing surgeries because they have such a huge problem their whole life which can be fixed in minutes. If you are happier then, do it! But people dont even stop with that. They want more and more which turns out to get something like an addiction.
These problems would never got into our minds if the society would accept flaws!
Why I named the header "Why we should work against society" can be well explained. Kids are going to be destroyed mentally and physically. If they do not fit into the picture of a "perfect" human being, they will fight against those feelings not to be enough for the rest of their lifetime!
Have you made any experiences with the quote above? Well, I did. When I was bullied at school I thought it was because of my look. I changed my clothes, switched up the make-up routine and chose idols who werent even confident about theirselves. I still haven´t the body I wish for but for me its all about being healthy, proud of who I am and fixing those insecurities in my head. If we are strong enough to start a new era of education, it will have a huge impact and benefit on our children!
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Love, Soldier