I just realized today, after being online and dating via "Plenty of Fish" that when a woman puts "wants to date, but nothing serious" -- That what she means is entirely different from how men view that statement and use it. When men see a woman advertising as "wants to date, but nothing serious" she means she's not ready to settle down to a monogamous relationship yet. But what men read into that statement is "High Probability of a Booty Call".
In fact, when you look at the way men and women approach all manner of things so differently, it's a wonder that anybody finds any kind of meaningful relationship on any of these dating sites.
I'm old... I will be 50 in a few years. I don't think I am really cut out for "dating" the way it's being done these days. Maybe I'm just too much of a weirdo or an outlier for a relationship to happen. I've gone on 10 or so dates in the last 2 years and found some nice people and some good friendships... but so far, nobody that I've really connected with on a deep level.
I'm wondering if I am even delusional for wanting to connect on that kind of a level... Like, if it's even possible for me to find somebody that would be that interested in me. Maybe I'm too much work. I don't know.
So far, when I've been interested in them, (the men I have dated from POF) they have been disinterested in me... and vice versa. It makes me feel like the whole process of dating is next to impossible. That somebody needs to be really really committed to making it work with somebody, when in the 20 years of relationship I had before, it was never this much work. I think I am just out of my depth on dating.