Chatting is a method, the purpose is to warm up the feelings. I remember that when I was a student, the mobile phone was still not popular. The happiest time of the day was to call the boyfriend at the school in front of the only telephone in the dormitory.
There are many topics to talk about, such as the professor's wearing, the way of lectures, and the bad habits of roommates ,all could let us talk for a long time to fill the emptiness of the university era.
A few years later, those trivial things can't be remembered, letting alone raise interest. But why did we talk so much in the past?feeling like the air filled with negative oxygen ions makes people feel refreshed?
In fact, the freshness of the chatting content does not give you a real sense of freshness. Only when she is in a good mood , she will gradually like you. At this time, no matter what you talk to her, she can feel so fresh and willing to talk to you. Therefore, a happy mood is the key.
According to basic psychology theory, people's emotions are short-lived. A handsome movement, a sweet smile, and a nasty word in the first love can make the young heart jump half a beat.
However, you will find that for the effect of the same moves in future ,interactions will decrease with the increase in the number of uses, and economics calls that as a diminishing marginal benefit, which is what we usually say is aesthetic fatigue. Relative to pain and sorrow, happy emotions are especially short-lived, just like a flash.
Therefore, many people think that love is short-lived, and it is necessary to retain this short-lived feeling through marriage and family. Only in this way can the emotion be preserved.
I think that understanding is the basic factor. It is like using a bamboo basket to draw water. At first, the bamboo basket you saw was full of water. After a short walk, only half of the bamboo basket was left. The bamboo basket will be empty and nothing left soon.
Maintaining a good mood is the prerequisite for a lasting and refreshing chat. The situation is born from the heart, when you are in a bad mood, even if you hear the singing of the three tenors, you will think that it is a kind of noise;
When you are in a good mood, the sound of the children practicing the piano will become the sound of nature. To get a positive response from the girlfriend, she must be happy.
However, different women's expectations for boyfriends are different. There are mainly the following expectations:
These women usually need a boyfriend to give care and care like a father. When you know her warmth and cold, when she needs you stand up and shelter her from the wind and rain, she could die for you.
When she hangs like a koala, it is not afraid of not talking, but should be worried about chatting delaying work and study all day long.
Some women tend to have a welth wide-ranging boyfriend who can bring her material satisfaction. For example, a limited edition bag, a big meal that can get a friend's circle, a piece of jewelry that allows the girlfriend to flow out of the water.
When you can meet her material needs, she will be willing to chat with you. Talking about the most fashionable and popular elements in Paris, the Shanghai Concert Hall is playing a master's symphony. When will the limited edition bag come out , the wedding of her girlfriend is held on which cruise ship.
As long as your money bag HOLD lives, you are not afraid to have no discussion.
Some women advertise themselves as the best judges of the Appearance Association, and like boyfriends to dress like Li Changyi. So take him out and have a honor with the little sister, and it won't be tired.
For this reason, they did not hesitate to chase after the male god, from time to time in front of him, seeing him in a pin-up manner.
If the male god finally falls into her love network, they will never allow him to leave her field of vision to "hook up" other girls. When there is nothing to do, she will chat with you. you don't have to worry about your girlfriend and you have nothing to say.
Some women are more influenced by culture when they are in love. They think that if women are too active in their love, they will be looked down upon by their boyfriends.
So at the beginning, even if she was very interested in the other side, she restrained her own impulse to speak, even responding with "Hmm, Ah", even using expressions and actions instead of language when meeting.
This requires the boyfriend to have certain discriminating ability. Boys should judge her true thoughts through her words and expressions. Once the perfect deciphering breaks the last line of defense, she will be happy to share with you the pieces of life.
Usually, such girls like to pretend to be silently in front of "unfamiliar people", but she is a real talking-like girl in front of "acquaintances."
In summary, instead of working on the content of the chatting, to wonder what can make your girlfriend happy; it is better than to think about what type of boyfriend you are in your girlfriend's heart, and evaluate whether you can continue to play this role. Once you get your girlfriend's heart, you don't have to worry about nothing to talk about.