Are you a QUITTER?
I know it sounds insulting but believe me when I say that learning how to quit and when to quit is the best solution to realize your dream.
Trust me, I know it first hand.
When I was in college, I really did not have the best attitude towards studying. I think it is because I really don't know what I want in life. It sounds depressing but true. I don't know what I want to be. I don't know what my purpose is and what path to take. So I ended up making rush decisions that would eventually affect my future.
I never wanted to be an engineer. Since I was a kid I used to say that I would do anything just so I could escape the path in becoming one. Unfortunately, events in my life such as being in a specialized science-oriented class in high school led me to a path which I am forced to take. Whenever I think about the time in which I was making the biggest decision in my life, I wish I made an entirely different choice.
It ruined me. I was not happy and until now, I am quite lost. I wished I learned how to quit that time. If I was not so fed up about being practical I might be in a happier and satisfying path right now.
Unless you learn how to quit, you won't reach your dreams.
Most of the time the best way to solve your problems is not by solving it. The best way to solve your problems is to make your problems irrelevant.
According to Bo Sanchez, a known author from the Philippines, he sees two reasons why people don't quit.
1. People confuse purpose and path.
As defined by Bo Sanchez,
Purpose is the final destination
Path is the road going there.
When we start to confuse these two different words, problems will arise.
Take for example, a woman who wants to get married and start her own family meets a young guy who is a free spirited, irresponsible human being.
Now, lets review the elements in the story,
The woman's purpose is a happy marriage. Her path is the young free spirited guy in order to achieve her purpose. But there's a problem, that guy is irresponsible.
Now, the girl has to see the guy as a path and not a purpose. Because if she's confused between purpose and path, she will be attached to the boy. If the woman confuses the guy as her purpose, then she'll try to solve the problems of his character flaws head on- by trying to change him. And when that happens, marriage will become her path to twist the guy's attitude to 180 degrees.
That would be a major problem.
Why?
Because most men would not change even after marriage. Even exorcism could not do the trick.
2. When You Become Unclear with your Purpose.
Before, I thought that if I become an engineer I would be able to live my life to the fullest. My purpose on why I want chose to my profession it's because I want to be rich (yep, lots of money). But the thing is, my job became so stressful and depressing, that it was unclear as a foggy dawn up to the mountains what my purpose is. It was so foggy that I could not even see the path which I am to take.
When the purpose is messes up, our lives are messed up as well.
Sadly, I often experience this tragedy on and on. I never learned.
Oh! If I only know how to quit.
But our problem is that we think there's only one path. So when a problem blocks our way, we try to solve it head on. We don't understand that sometimes, the best way to solve the problem is to make it irrelevant.
Life will be much simpler if only I knew this before.
Now, tell your self that there's more than one path
Don't dwell on one solution. As we've learned from our math, 2 is not only solved by 1 plus 1. It could also be from 2 plus 0 or 1 multiplied by 2. It is up to you which is the most simpler solution that would give you better result.
Remember, there is another way.
Stop making things difficult. Quit the path your taking and find another way!
But, don't quit on your purpose.