Do you think that you are an adult and can choose how to live? My life - my rules, right? There are four ways to live your life, the four ways in which you can pass. Tell me where you find yourself, when will cross the finish line?

Oh yes. All dream of a house under the palm tree and a Pina Colada in hand. Are you sure that you need this tree? Maybe you can not stand the tropical climate and the dream of cocktails on the beach just because you saw a couple of beautiful magazine spreads, and all my friends nod:

- Yes, it's cool, it is necessary to go to Goa and live happily.

But you, you personally, I want to Goa? Or is it all just the thoughts of others and other people's goals you have in mind? So, here are a few stories to figure out where you find yourself, if you go on a selected road long enough.

1. Somehow

Everyone has a friend, his name is Little Johnny, he was 35 years old, and no one comes to mind to call it as something different. Not Volodya without Vladimir. Little Johnny and all.

In Vovochki life goes on. The usual story: I met a girl, started dating, parents said we must get married. And they were married. Little Johnny was working with the police - the night shift, there is no money. In general, too, the usual story. My wife said:

- Not the money, I want a divorce.

And they divorced.

A year later, he met another girl, and she said: "I want my boyfriend had a massage therapist." And he went to the massage courses. Such is the policeman-turned masseur. The parents said, you have to get married, but she refused - no money. In Vovochki head lock conflict: because married or not? Little Johnny confused.

When asked why he would not go a masseur to work full-time, why not leave the police without qualifications will pump and then did not open his office, he wonders:

- What can you?

2. Like all

Or another friend, his name is Serge. He was 32, and he is such a labor-Serge. I went into the army, returned, got married, I went to work in the riot. His wife gave birth to twins: had to get a second job - went to his father to the base. His wife gave birth to a third.

- Cheers, son!

I took extra shifts at work.

Now his garage, his wife a fur coat, a dog, three children, a weekend in Moscow for shopping. We are proud to say:

- We all like people. The neighbors turn green with envy - bought the land, we will build a house.

- And what about the rest, Sergey? How do you relax? Hunting Fishing?

- What is sea fishing! I am busy!

Of course, he had no time: three days of work - output, three runs - off. A weekend house he builds. Yes, and my wife wants to own a car. And because children wear-shod. Yes, to the envy of neighbors! What nonsense - he has no time to rest.

3. Better than others

Another friend of Andrew, and his all in chocolate. The pocket wallet Montblanc, in Instagram photos on a snowboard from Austria. Recently completed the renovation in its kopeck piece, very worried about the Italian cuisine, that long established. He started with a simple manager now - Commercial Director. And he's a great professional he always delves into the essence of the process, always busy with important matters.

That's just one problem is always the same: they were two years ago, five years ago, and seven years ago. When he joined the company a young and green manager, the problems were the same.

Just imagine, a man decides to seven years in a row the same.

To the question:

- Andrew, do not you tired?

He sighs and says:

- Well, what to do?

4. In its own way

At the head of any reasonable person is always the question "what to do?"

Living like Little Johnny? How come? Turn into a log and go with the flow? To anyone else, he sat down on a log above, taxied oar and helped avoid whirlpools?

Be as Serge? Buy my wife boots and valuable furs to the envy of its neighbors? Upahatsya to exhaustion, to fifty years to build a house, plant potatoes and wait for the harvest? And all this with the full knowledge that life is good: the social program is executed, and in the envious indigestion.

Try better, do more, be higher, as Andrew? Looking back at your surroundings, be content with what you have a little more than others?

And actually what is the difference between them? One lives aimlessly, the other wants to be like everyone else, and the third - to be better than others. Question - and what they really want? Each of them has a purpose, but whose is the purpose? Native wives, exactly?

What to do? How to find your way? How to find what you need exactly you?

The answer is only one - do. Do many stupid things, make mistakes, to see that this came to nothing lead, to change tactics again be wrong, but do not throw and go.

At that moment, when you think about it, what really want the world turn upside down.

Most likely, you'll be horrified. Because understand: nothing of what you are doing now, you do not like. Nothing of what you are doing now, you do not need.

Yes, you have where to live on, have a car, fancy clothes, but for all that you have to pay your own time. Own life.

You must do what you do not want to be able to live as you do not want.

You see, what a paradox?

Now it is very fashionable to talk about what you need to find your way. So no its path. It is impossible to find or invent. It can only pass.

His way - that's how you achieve goals you want to achieve for yourself. The goals that you really want it, conscious purpose. They may not be comfortable when you achieve them, you can understand that you want something else. It does not matter. The main thing is to go forward and do not stop.

Here's another really simple example.

Vitaly worked in the office and got up at 7 in the morning, going and driving to work. How he hated those early rises! An hour to get to the office in a stuffy, crowded subway car, where the ability to work with his elbows - the main guarantee of survival.

And he found a job close to home: it was necessary to go 15 minutes, and he would get up at 8am. For almost an hour he spent on fees, and thought it would be great to work from home.

And he found a remote work: get up at 9 in the morning, turn on the computer - and op! - He was on the job.

And then he thought it would be cool to get up when he wants to. And, since all the heads somehow believed that the employee must be a strict work schedule, he began working on his own.

And you know what? He woke up at 11 month, leisurely drinking coffee, breakfast, and only then start to work. But I suddenly realized that he was sorry for half a day, which takes place while he sleeps.

And it is on their own began to rise again at 9. It turned out nice and easy, like here, at this point, it should be. Jigsaw formed.

No matter how many mistakes you make, is to find what you really need. No matter how many stupid actions you make. The important thing is that you go to an intended purpose. That is, rather than someone else. It is important that you move forward: set a goal - reach, putting - reach.

Each goal - it is a small step to the execution of something bigger, that can not be achieved immediately, and now - to achieve the dream.

But the main secret of the fact that you can stop and ask at any time of his life:

- And what I really want? Where do I want to get there?

And then abruptly change direction.

But it is better to do it now than in 50 years, the vegetable garden, weeding and okuchivaya potatoes.

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