Your values are defined as the criteria for choosing the strategies for fulfilling your wants and needs. If you value power, you will use your relationships as a means of securing those objects and symbols which you perceive to confer power. If you value love and cooperation, you will use your relationships as an opportunity for healing.
What do you value in life?
What motivates and energizes you?
There is no right answer. The answer is what you believe inside. It's not always what you tell people or even what you tell yourself. Your behavior, habits and attitudes are often the best indicators of what you truly value. Do you value status, possessions, relationships, parenting, teaching, learning, opportunity, freedom, time? Inquire within, and listen.
Whenever actions and values are in conflict, only suffering can result. The failure to identify one's values is a recipe for pain and discontent. Happiness comes from the alignment of action with values.