This probably feels very awkward and it sounds like the OP has a very mean-spirited roommate:
I didn't realize my [12 year old] roommate had set up security camera or like this baby/animal monitor thingy in her room that also record audio (don't know why she would do that when she can just lock her door). Anyway, [I hooked up with this guy and] needless to say I would not want others to hear it but I didn't realize she had running cameras in her room that could pick up on noise and my door was open as well. [...] I found out she had recorded [me hooking up with someone] and sent it to some of our friends making fun of me and now I'm very embarrassed and mortified that people have heard me like that when I was meant to be alone. If I had been that loud with people home I can see how that's disrespectful but I was home alone. I'm not sure what to do. [...] This roommate has been nothing but mean to me and everyone in the house can see it as well as my friends when they come to visit. She's taken advantage of my niceness and now embarrassed me for doing something I shouldn't be ashamed of.
From the OP's post, this is an indirect recording. The roommate set up a monitor in their room for some reason (protection of equipment?) and it happened to pick up on the sound in another room. This may differ from directly recording video or audio depending on who you ask.
HOWEVER, the roommate sent the audio to other people. VERY STUPID. It might be one thing to accidentally pick up on noises or sounds when protection is the goal, but to send those sounds and noises to others makes it look immature. This could get ugly, depending on what the victim does. Most of the posters advise she gets a lawyer, which may help her if they determine what's needed to point to the roommate being immature, destructive and violating privacy. In the least, the victim should document what's happened so far along with what continues to happen with this very mean-spirited roommate.
I feel that if I'm living with others, whether they are present or not, I give up some of my privacy. I feel bad for the poster because she may not have realized this, especially since she's 19, but that's a warning to all of us. I never know what equipment other people have and whether I like it or not, that's the way living with others works. People do weird stuff like record their rooms (maybe they had something stolen once). I do not agree with that the other roommate did by spreading the information to others and harassing the victim. That was very evil. It's just I gotta be careful!!!
Suppose your roommate recorded the sound of you hooking up (indirectly) and told everyone. How would you feel? What would you do?
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