The water ain't always warmer in a different ocean, but people will still try!
This question goes out for those of you who wonder if your partner is betraying you in situations where you see odd behavior. This particular case is a little obvious 'cuz I feel she is acting very, very odd. Too odd, if you ask me:
I've noticed she never tells me she loves me anymore and when I'm not working she'll always make me stay in our sons room at night to "make sure he's ok". Recently she wanted me to spend a fair amount on lingerie which she says is a treat for valentines day, to which I think is fair enough, but bare in mind we haven't [been together intimately] in a year and now rarely ever do [physical activities]. At the time I thought to myself that this was a good sign but now when I ask her about having time for ourselves for valentines, she says she doesn't know or makes excuses.
Hate to say it. She's probably cheating. Yeah, it sucks.
But what about the rest of you? What do you do if you suspect your partner is cheating?
- If you have to wonder, I would say there's already something wrong. Going through a partner's phone to bring up a common activity suspicious people do already indicates there are some problems. If you feel the need to check their phone, do you not see the problem?
- If we're talking a casual relationship, why don't you have options? Keep your options open. Keep your options open. Keep your options open!!! Even in a serious relationship, you should still feel like you have options so that you never feel FORCED to be with someone (eww, who wants that?).
- Once a cheater, always a cheater. Anyone who cheats will do it again. If you feel your partner has betrayed you and you have strong evidence, confront ONLY WITH THE INTENTION of confirming and moving on from them. They will not change. Even if they could, it's not worth the risk.
- Meet others regularly. You need to feel that you have options, even if you don't exercise them. If you don't feel that you have options, you may do desperate things hoping that you won't lose a person who's betrayed you.
- If you have kids with the cheater, don't forget that it's not the kids' fault. Yes, you're hurting. Yes it sucks. Try to reduce the spread of the pain, even if it's not easy.
- SOME UGLY TRUTH: cheating and betrayal is always possible, so be careful about over committing to someone with the thought that cheating will never happen to you. Be prepared.
How do you feel about this? Ever been in a similar situation?
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