We all wonder about “Mistresses”,also known as home-wreckers and more .I’m going to take you to deep into the lives,secrets and logic of a mistress. First,let me start off by informing you that their is (three )different types of mistresses….yes ladies and gents ..you read right… Three! The three types of mistresses are THE ACCIDENTAL MISTRESS,THE DEVOTED MISTRESS and THE ONE WHO BECAME THE WIFE.I know your reading this incomplete shock ,let me inform you on each of the three.
The Accidental Mistress- This is a woman who started dating a man,learned more about him,grew attracted and attached to him ,then eventually gave herself to him.Their relationship (or situation -ship)carries on for a while ,for a year to be exact (sometimes more years in other cases or months).Everything seemed so perfect …she was in love,they were in love.Then one day she gets a call from a hysterical woman that says she is her lovers wife (in some cases the mistresses find out by investigation,catches the guy in a lie,guy reveals secret and more).Now the new tilted Mistress earns a name that she never knew she held and is completely heartbroken from her lovers lies and secrets.The mistress cannot always leave(although some do) because she is in too deep and then the disaster continues.The mistress grows insecure from her lovers manipulation and mind games (In some cases are already insecure from past experiences in life) and is so in love that she continues to stay.Somewhere, the story changes. Rage cannot exist well in the face of love. Love may not conquer all, but it conquers rage. Love with its hope and promise can cut through rage like a spear through a rice screen.
THE DEVOTED MISTRESS- This is a woman who knows all about her lovers marriage or relationship.She is hopeful that he will leave his wife or girlfriend, but even if he doesn’t…she will be there.Through the holidays, she wishes he could be there with her ,but regardless she is just happy to have him in her life. She will attempt to hold him down in every way that you lack.When and if she gets tired of her role she will leave just as easy as she came….but i can’t say the same for the lover(your husband or boyfriend)if he loves her .
THE ONE WHO BECAME THE WIFE- This woman may know about her lovers marriage,or she may not but regardless she continues their affair.If she is knowledgeable about his marriage she may look at things like Fiona Apple song – how does it go? “So be it, I’m your crowbar, if that’s what I am so far, until you get out of this mess and I will pretend that I don’t know of your sins until you are ready to confess. And you can use my skin to bury secrets in and I will settle you down and at my own suggestion, I will ask no questions while I do my thing in the background…” Like that.He falls for her,or the wife finds out..or maybe both and then he marries his mistress.Some past mistresses have said that “Fantasy has a terrible time moving into reality”.Even after finally getting the guy,most women find out they never really had the man.Sometimes it works and sometimes it just doesn’t.
You could say these women chose their situations, that they made their beds and must now lie in them. You could say a lot of things. Or you could see that people are multi-dimensional and difficult to categorize, that love isn’t something within our control, that it can come and go, or hit you and never go away. It’s not just sex and the sort of gory details that feed this vulture culture. Look beyond. Dare to be made uncomfortable by the complexity of a situation and understand that unless you’re standing where they’re standing, you’ll never truly understand their reasons.