Why are we so affected by others? Have you found the someone's words and actions can have the tendency to make or break your sense of well being?
This shift into internal sovereignty is a profound one. It will require us to rewire our entire relationship with external feedback. For better or worse.
Many times, when we hear that we "should not take things personally" it usually is directed art negativity.
This is the idea that we should not let anyone negative perspectives or actions towards us mean anything. But we do not actually apply this to the actions and perspectives that we deem as being positive.
We welcome those with open arms.
What if I told you this was two sides of the same coin? That actually having someones positive feedback affect you positively makes you susceptible to being affected by their negative feedback?
At the end of the day, what is happening when we allow peoples perspective and actions to affect our inner state is, we are giving them power over how we feel.
If someone has the power to make us feel good. They also have the power to make us feel bad.
This may be a slightly controversial statement, but if we are honest and observant we will see this is the case.