I've been thinking about writing a post like this for a couple weeks now, and after this post by , I feel it's time. I want to say that this post is in no way talking bad about kaylinart or anyone else who holds such an opinion, but I've heard this sort of ignorance all my life.
I mean that word in the nicest way possible, but phrases like "People don't seem to like to take responsibility for their happiness." & "Dealing with stress the correct way is important. Learn how to make yourself feel better and calmer. Without letting stress damage your happiness level in the long term.", are completely short sighted and don't take into account people who have legitimate issues which prevent them from attaining even small amounts of happiness.
Case in point: Myself. I have had ADHD my entire life. At 30 years old, I still struggle daily with an inability to do things most people take for granted . If you don't know much about how ADHD works, my brain literally doesn't take in the right amount of dopamine, a neurochemical that helps us get that "happy feeling".
Check out this Big Think video that explains it a bit better than I can.
In conjunction with ADHD, I have depression. Now, depression is a word that's used in many ways, but in this case, I'm talking about the sort of depression that isn't cause by outside forces. It's not grief, it's not because something happened, and something happening typically doesn't make it better.
It's not the sort of unhappiness that one can just shrug off. It's a deep, penetrating flow of negative emotions that gets in the way of work, family, hygiene, diet... the list goes on and on.
It's not something I can just "talk to someone about", and it's not something a medication or medical procedure can cure.
Medications treat symptoms, they don't fix what's wrong. What's wrong is something I will battle with the rest of my life, until one day, the sweet embrace of death will be upon me, at which point none of this will matter.
I want to say thank you to for being the first person to bring up the fact that this may have been in bad taste.
There are INDEED people out there who can't just take a "it's your fault", and be okay.
And I realize the original post was probably not written with everyone in mind, but I still felt like it failed to address that sometimes, people are legitimately unhappy, and they can do nothing about it...