Words and body language are powerful. More goes on beneath the surface of every conversation than we realize. Try these Jedi Mind Tricks and see if you become more effective in your life...
1. EMBEDDED COMMANDS: When delivering bad news, say "you may not totally love this" verses "you are going to hate this". Why? You are pushing the "embedded command" -Love This. Ask for the outcome you want..."Stay careful with that drink on the couch." vs. "Don't spill it". "Remain calm" vs. "Don't panic".
2.EYE CUES: Are you talking to a "feelings" processor or a "visual" processor? Do their eyes go up searching in their mind's-eye for pictures as they talk, or down to their core? If up, you use words like "Can you see us doing this deal (going to my movie choice, restaurant etc)?" Picture the perfect scenario and describe it that way. For feelers use "Would you feel fine with me going away surfing next weekend?"
3. GESTURES: This one mirrors the Obi-Wan moves...it's an easy habit and you may do it already, gesture towards yourself when saying positive things, away from yourself with anything negative. Subconsciously people pick up on it and are more likely to attach the positive traits to you.
OK...This is NLP 101, the basics that I have used and taught successfully for over a decade and will happily post more on the topic in future.
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