Do you think your thought of yourself comes from you, or from someone else? Have you ever thought that, in fact, everyone's thought of themselves comes from others? Since childhood we have been educated, we should do this, we shouldn’t do that, be a good child, study hard, and grow up to be a useful person.
But no one has ever told us how to be a person who agrees with ourselves. Our perception of ourselves begins with the evaluation and demands of others. As a child, the teacher taught you about calculation, if you learn a little bit slower than other students, or failed several times in the exam, the teacher will say to you: “Why are you so stupid, you can’t learn anything, other students are doing better than you.”
Later, during high school, you and other classmate learn to play basketball, but your skill is not good enough, your teammates said: "Do you know how to play or not? If not, please don’t hold us back."
They are all judging you, some people say you stupid, lazy, and don’t know anything, others say you are honest sincere and trustworthy. Every day, countless people are expressing their views on you, asking you to be a person of one kind or another. Slowly for a long time, you are influenced by these ideas to form what you think of yourself.
If you don't know yourself, how can others define you? Is there such a few moments, someone said a random evaluation about you, praise or complaint, you may deliberately changing yourself to become such a person.
My classmate Nancy, during the first day of the primary school, when the teacher asked everyone practice writing, and the teacher praise Nancy for having such good handwriting.
Because of the teacher's praise, Nancy was obsessed with the practice of writing from then on. But I know, Nancy feels inferior because of her results are not good, the teacher's praise gives her the confidence for the first time, so she has been hard to practice the writing.
Until now her handwriting is really good. Another classmate, Sarah, not so lucky, during the exam period, she was nervous, and because of stress, not able to sleep well, resulting in very unsatisfactory results.
The teacher took her failed paper and criticized her in public, and the teacher said, “You might as well stop studying. Because you will affect the average score of our whole class, you are the bad apple in our class.” Later, during every exam, Sarah will think of the teacher's words and feels tense when answering the questions. Sure enough, she failed her exam again.
You see, there are some unintentional words, or deliberate criticism, that have such a big impact on us. It is a pity that when we grow up, we realize that we should be our own masters, but those things of the past have drawn a trail of a word in our hearts.
A Soviet writer, Anton Tchaikovsky, said that people are what they think they are. However, when other people's comments on you, and making you change yourself, will also deepen the impression of others.
It's not so much what you think it is, it's that we feel what other people expect us to be. We should not live in the bondage of others without knowing it, pay too much attention to the evaluation of others and ignore the inner self.
Rip off the tags, rip off those pseudo-tags, accept yourself and be what you want you to be.
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://walkinharmony.vornix.blog/2018/12/25/rip-off-the-label-others-put-on-you-and-be-yourself/