Many people rush into marriage and before you say 'jack', they are out! What could possibly be wrong? Could it be love or lack of understanding or patience or stuffs like that.
Many of grew up with the mindset that our marriage is going to be perfect. We even use our parents as models or any family relation or acquaintances that theirs seem like it was made in heaven.
We tend to copy everything that this models do that we forget one important factor which is "marriage has no formula".
What i am trying to say in essence is that what works for your parents may not necessarily work for you. In as much as there are your parents, you differ in ideologies, level of tolerance not to mention that another person from a different background is now in the picture.
So, you will agree with me that you have to figure out what's good for you and your partner and stick to it. You are free to learn the basics from the people you look up to but you must be dynamic in application.
To sum it up, "you learn the way, but make your own way."