I'm so sorry for your mom and your situation. I just lost my mom a month ago, and that wound is still fresh. But I was a mile away from her. I can't imagine what it would have been like being 16 hours away. But if I had to choose, I would have taken the opportunity to say goodbye while I still had the chance. I spent a lot of hours just sitting there next to the bed holding my mom's hand because I knew I'd never get that chance again. I cherish that time more than I do her funeral.