There is a group of unhappy people who ascribe their unfortunate situation to external factors, like other things or people. For them, what they like to do is to make excuses and think it's outside forces that lead to their current state.
When leaving alone their "bias" and being aware of their inabilities, they would be able to change their lives.
- If I were very rich, I could not care about other views.
Someone says: "I can live my life according to my will when I have more money." Actually, this is an excuse showing that their state is relate to having less money and isn't caused by what they did.
- When I have more money, I would be OK.
They unconsciously rationalize their hardship or unfortunate, thinking that it resulted from other factors, like people who are not good enough, terrible past. In fact, the most important is that they avoid the real problem and don't want to face themselves.
- What is it that doesn't make them change?
The more excuses, the more they are inclined to let go of their responsibilities. Over time, they would have formed an awareness that it's not their fault, but others'.
Only if they are able to confront this situation would they possibly make a change. No excuses, or no external factors may be the first step toward growth and success.
To be honest, it's really hard to face our shortcomings. However, when making it done we would become stronger, because we overcome our weakness and we are not afraid of our shortcomings.
Those who are not happy all have an ingrained prejudice that this world is terrible and their unhappiness is caused by other people. We should prevent the thought of making excuses. Rather, we must think about things more positively and more actively. This is what we endeavor to seek for.
Unless we change ourselves, the reality still remains the same.