When it comes to happiness, there are different things we think make us happy. My question is, do they give us true happiness?
I gather that these things fall in various categories. Let me highlight them and afterwards give a conclusion of what I believe will bring true happiness.
Gender
A man and a woman will have different dreams of what will make them happy.
As we grow up as MEN we mostly think of how we will land that great job and buy that big car and “maybe get a family.” (Maybe is in quotes because that is not our first thought.) We conclude that once we attain this we will be happy.
As for WOMEN, (Mostly); will dream of that big wedding and getting a family and “maybe landing that big job and car.”
Will this lead to true happiness?
Religion
Majority of individuals do believe that true happiness lies in religion. This may be somewhat true as there is some peace/ happiness that one feels when you are worshipping or praying to your God. You feel safe and calm. You place all your worries before your God and believe all will be well. I can’t argue with religion as I also believe it plays some role in true happiness.
Money
People also believe that true happiness is attained when you have tons of money. You get to live in that posh house/ apartment, drive that big car, buy those fancy gems, wear those fancy clothes, lounge at those big hotel……………well, yes that will bring happiness. What about true happiness? But don’t get me wrong, money is important to pay your bills and eat.
Love/ Friendship
Love, though comprising of only 4 letters is a hell of a big word. Covers so much. Find someone you love unconditionally and loves you back unconditionally you find happiness.
TRUE HAPPINESS
According to me, true happiness will result from a combination of many factors. Let’s start here. As I mentioned above, we are all raised differently but there is that common belief of the things that will make you happy. We looked at MEN and WOMEN and saw what the common thought was among each gender to make them happy. I think all factors are connected and the glue that makes true happiness work is love and friendship. Religion somehow involves love. Love of ones God.
Let me explain.
You can lack much money and be happy, you can also lack the luxurious things money buys and be happy. I came to realize that we all like to be loved and we like it when we have that person we can share with how our day was or who is normally there for us when we need someone. This can be a spouse or a friend. If you lack love or good friends, I don’t think you can be truly happy. Let me prove it. Think of the happiest moment(s) you have been in and tell me if they lack some love or friendship. You will probably be thinking of that time you spent with so and so. Furthermore, when you are lonely or idle you call on friends or hang out with family. You do not go to the closet to try out fancy clothes, nor do you go to that posh car. Money too will never comfort you when you are low.
Think about it.