So you have decided “to hell with this single life, I want a good partner by my side”. What must I do, to find one?
1. Did you see a beautiful picture of this person on a social media website?
The chances are that if you did see the photo on a social media website, excluding those dedicated to dating, and now feel that this person is the one. You could be asking for trouble. This could be the first sign of an attention seeker, who may not want to stop doing this, even if you are in a relationship and you ask them not to do it anymore. When someone post their own pictures all over the web. They may consider this to be a big highlight in their life, so who are you to stop them from getting all those likes and followers. At the same time, other people will also see these photos and contact that person just like you did, and I don’t need to say any more about the arguments this could cause. This person might also be forever on their smartphone. So prepare yourself for constant picture taking, the phone screen light in bed, mail send sounds and notifications of all sorts.2. Did you just see this person across the dance floor in a club?
This person is normally very similar to the one found on the social media site, in the sense that clubbing and going out with friends is the highlight of their life. Just as the likes and followers were the highlights of the social media lover. Will this person be happy with just staying in, more often just you and them? You could find that the answer to that question is “NO”. “You are not fun anymore, and I am sick of this”. Might be some of the words you hear. The question again is this; “who are you to want to stop this person having fun in what they believe to be their prime”.3. Should you just let your family and friends choose a good partner for you?
Well, if you want your friends and family to live your life, then the answer is yes. If you want to live your own life in the way that you choose, then consider the following. Your friends and family will choose a partner based on the standards of what they consider good. For example; your friends might want you to have a partner that does everything you say. If you were to follow these friends and choose a partner that does this. What would be the point of having a partner? You might as well talk to yourself and answer all your own questions. Let’s say that you are wrong for example. This person would just say what they believe you want to hear, and so you might go ahead and make some terrible mistakes. Such as buying that car you know you cannot afford just as a means to impress the lads (your friends). On the other hand, let’s say you allow your mother to choose a partner for you. She may just choose a partner that fits the role that she undertook. So in the case where you are seeking a good woman as a partner. She might just want an “old fashion woman” for you that just stays at home, cook, and have children. Now what if you want a woman by your side to help build a business and grow as you grow. You can now see a problem, can’t you? You will find that friends and family normally make the following observations: • The person is too fat • The person is too skinny • The person is too ugly • I wouldn’t be seen dead with that personYou can take advice from family and friends, but in the end the decision must be yours.
So if you want to find a good partner, then you must search for some of the following qualities: 1. Someone who wants the best for you 2. Someone who comes to decisions by including you 3. Someone who tells you when you are wrong, and praises you when you are right 4. Someone who is there for you, as a shoulder to cry on, and at all other times 5. Someone who is a good lover but also a good friend You should be searching for a partner that will bring balance to your life and not one that will upset it. You do not want a partner who has the idea that your success should be considered below theirs. As this will only lead to battles at home and within the relationship. If you face battles at home and with the one closest to you, what support and strength will you have for the outside world? So, when choosing a partner in life, make sure that your decision is a good one, as it could affect you for the rest of your life.