I was once very shy, but by working on myself and putting myself out there more than I didn’t want to, made me more social. I’ll help you discover yourself and make you become more social and outgoing by sharing some of the important ideas I learned while I was on my journey to becoming more social.
The most common mistake people make when trying to become more social is that they rush into it. They are in such a rush that they just want to skip the entire process of socializing to become social—it makes no sense. It’s like wanting to fill your stomach with food without eating food.
What they need to do is to take it slowly. You need to understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day. I know you want to be the person everyone calls when they need help. I know you want to become a person that always has something interesting to say, or always remembers the name of everyone they meet. But you need to realize it will take time.
Start by going out of the house more and then slowly build yourself up by talking to that kind old man in the neighborhood who always takes his dog for a walk in the evening. Slowly but surely, you will become the life of the party that everyone loves.
For example, they never seem to know when they should ask someone a personal question like a work colleague or when is the right time to ask them such a question, the answer is simple—firstly, you can ask them a personal question and secondly, you can ask them this question after you get to know each other just a little bit, professionally.
You need to practice and learn the rules of socializing by reading books and asking help from friends and family members. Don’t follow the rules literally, just learn them and improvise as you socialize each day with different people. Find your own style that you are comfortable with.
Fix whatever you do not like about yourself, and accept what you can’t change. In just a matter of time, you will gradually become the life of the party that everyone loves.