Many of the choices we make in our lives, are subject to questions and comments from our surroundings. It seems as if everyone has a view of what we are doing, how we behave and with whom we hang out.
Sometimes people go so far as to ask us for an explanation for the choices we made in our lives.
I think that whilst we may feel obliged to answer in some cases, some things are not about anyone else except us.
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At a time when everyone has an opinion about everybody, it's easy for others to comment on what you choose to do, to give, to say. And, most of the time, when you are criticized (especially when it is a nasty comment or an indiscriminate question), you feel the need to "defend yourself". Most of the time you end up being justified. Well, not anymore!!!
Below I will write a list of some things for which you don't need to explain to anyone if you don't want to. even if you think, that you have to apologize.
- You do not owe any explanation for the state of your life. Whether
living with your ex, whether you are sleeping in a different hotel
every night or you live with your parents, you do not need to
apologize to anyone. If you are fully aware of your situation, then
it means that you have your reasons for making the choice and it does
not concern anyone else.
-You do not owe any explanation for your priorities. You have your own
view about what makes you and your loved ones happy, which is your
main priority. Since we are all separate people with different
ethical values, dreams and priorities. Your main priorities will be
different from the person sitting next to you. You don't owe any
explanation for the priorities you have set in your life.
- You don't owe any apologies if you have not really regret it. If you
have not regretted for your actions or even believe that the other
person was wrong or you are not interested in his forgiveness, you do
not need to apologize. Some people are rushing to apologize in order
to heal their wounds that are not yet ready to heal, as a result they
simply worsening things.
You do not have to give any explanation for the time you want to
spend on your own. You may worry that they will call you rude or
antisocial when you cancel your plans to spend some time alone and
calm down. However, wanting to spend time with yourself is perfectly
normal and necessary and many people have to adopt this habit. You
do not owe anybody your agreement to their personal beliefs. Even if
one can express his personal views passionately, it does not mean you
have to agree with what he says. If you do not share the views of the
other, it is unfair for yourself and the other to pretend that you
agree. It is preferable to express your point of view, even if there
is disagreement.You have every right to say no. In fact, the most successful people
are the ones who say no to anything that is not their priority.
Recognize the courtesy of another, but do not be afraid to deny his
proposal.
- You do not owe any explanation for your external appearance. You may
be short, tall, thin, plump or whatever you want and make you feel
beautiful with yourself without having to explain to anyone. Your
external appearance concerns you and no one else
- You do not have to explain to anyone about your eating habits. There
may be some specific foods that you do not like and do not eat. You
do not have to explain to anyone because you do not like them. Your
eating habits are a purely personal matter.
- You do not owe any explanation for your personal life. You do not owe
any explanation for what you like to have sex and who. You may want
to wait until the first night of your wedding or to like ephemeral
relationships. It is purely your personal affair and does not concern
anyone else.
- You do not have to explain for the choices you make in your life or
about your career. Occasionally, circumstances make us choose between
career and "have life." The decision is not easy. Choosing a career
does not mean you do not care about your family or social life. It
means that you want to work on something that will give you more
security in the future.
- You do not owe any explanation for your religious or political
beliefs. What ever religion you believe or do not believe is a
personal matter. You do not owe any explanation for the reasons that
led you to this choice. If someone can not accept you for what you
are, it is their own problem, not yours.
- You do not owe any explanation for not having a partner. Whether you
are alone by choice or not, it is your personal matter. Not having a
relationship is not some sort of mental disorder. You are free to
choose whether you want to be in a relationship or not.
- You do not owe anyone to go out with him because he has asked you.
He/She may be handsome and polite, but you do not have to go out with
him/her if you do not want, simply because he/she has asked you. If
you do not want to to go an date, do not go.
- You do not owe any explanation for your wedding decision. Whether you
want to marry and make a family, or you do not want it, it concerns
only you. Even your mother, who wants nothing more to become a
grandmother, should respect your decision.
- You do not owe any explanation for your choices in relationships.
Sometimes, people make inappropriate comments about the relationships of others, but they do not really concern them at all. Comments may vary from very positive to very negative. Anyway live your life and never stay or leave a relationship because someone told you to do.
Conclusion in our life we are absolutely free to do whatever we want. We are not obliged to give explanation to anyone about what our choices. Never let anyone affect you negatively and manipulate you with his judgemental behaviour.
