Guiguzi, a legendary figure in the ancient Chinese Warring States Period. He is the originator of the strategist, the representative of the Taoist family, and the military lord called him a sacred. Gui Guzi’s doctrine attaches great importance to practicality, even today, more than two thousand years later, it is still very high value. Guiguzi believes that those who want to become a major event must have a very strong ability to respond to the ever-changing situation. In particular, the reaction in adversity can better reflect one's ability and cultivation. In the face of sudden changes or unreasonable accusations of others, it is easy to make a difference if it is not handled properly. When you encounter something that doesn't go well, think about these three sentences and let you get out of the woods and suddenly become more open.
First, encounter the cross-reverse and not anger and interpretation: encounter unsatisfactory things, not angry or complain. There are ninety-nine things that are unsatisfactory in life. If you encounter something that doesn't go well, you will be thundering and even vent your temper on the people around you. This kind of practice is extremely naive and unwise. Anger can't solve the problem, and arbitrarily venting to others will make people look down on you. When people are emotionally excited, it is easy to make impulsive things and make them regret. Therefore, if you encounter something that doesn't go well, first calm down, find out the ins and outs of things, and then think about countermeasures. The real smart person, the first reaction to the encounter is not complaining or anger, but trying to solve the problem.
Second, the cause of the change is not shocked: when encountering a sudden change, do not panic. Life can't be smooth forever. When encountering a change, a person's ability to adapt greatly determines his achievements. If you encounter a little change, you will be shocked and stunned, giving others an unreliable feeling. In the event of a major event, there must be a change in the color of the Taishan Mountain. When encountering a change, it is necessary to calmly deal with it. Only calm down your emotions before you can calmly deal with the changes that have occurred. Once you panic, it is easy to give others a chance.
Third, when it is very embarrassing and not arguing: when it is unreasonably accused or embarrassed by others, it does not argue or refute the other party. When accused, the first time is not to argue for yourself, to solve the problem of business management, or to refute the other party, but to reflect on themselves, whether the other party's accusation makes sense. If the other party is justified, it is necessary to change the former and thank the other person for pointing. If the other party is unreasonable, then there is no need to take care of each other. As the saying goes, Ning and understand people quarreling, not talking to confused people. It is a waste of time to talk to such a snarling person. When you encounter something that doesn't go well, you often think about these three sentences, let you get out of the predicament, and the road to life is getting wider and wider! Many people like to ask such a question: "What can I do to make my life smooth, let the business go smoothly, and let the children go well?" In fact, if you have a smooth life, you can just have six words. According to these six words, your life will be smooth! Repent, just wash yourself. The younger the person, the younger he is, the happier he is, the harder he is to live. Because the more you grow up, the more pollution your life has, and the less it is cleaned, the more painful it is. If we don't wash our face for a month or even wash our face for ten years, what do we feel? What do people think of us? We will feel very uncomfortable, afraid to go out, others are disgusting to see us. This is to say that our outside is now back inside - our heart. Many people have never cleaned this heart for a lifetime, and their hearts are full of rubbish and ugly, so it is absolutely painful and catastrophic. Although our face will be dirty every day, we can wash our face, even the face of a worker like a coal mine. Although it is as dark as an African, as long as he cleans it, it can be cleaned again. I have met someone and asked him, "Have you made a mistake?" He said: "I have never made a mistake!" Excuse me, is this still a person? ! As long as it is a mortal, you will make mistakes. Those who have not made a mistake are not people! However, even if we have committed a crime, it does not matter, as long as we learn to clean! The way to cleanse the world of the mind is to repent. For example, a white and clean towel was used to wipe the oil, rubbed the paint, wiped the dust, and wiped the urine. This towel is of course dirty and smelly. It is hard to see everyone. But no matter how dirty it is, the essence of cotton has never changed! Therefore, as long as the special method and special detergent are used, the towel can still be restored to its whiteness and cleanliness! Our sins are like this stained towel, which must be considered incorrigible in the eyes of mortals, only abandoned. Dirty and ugly are just normal phenomena that are lost in the course of life. As long as you are enlightened, willing to clean, and find a way to clean, everything can be clean! This is the necessity of confession and the magic of remorse! forgive. Repentance is for yourself, and forgiveness is for others. Forgiveness is the forgiveness of others, and don't put others' mistakes in your heart. So these two methods are used to clean up two types of garbage. Repentance is to clean up your own garbage. Forgiveness is to clean up the garbage of others who take it home. That is: you take your own garbage, don’t take it away, I will throw it away, I will not help you collect it! Forgiveness is to forgive those who have been sorry for us, those who have hurt us, those who have been envious of us, those who have sinned against us, and forgive their faults. These jobs are a must, not once a day, but always at all times. What is this called? This is practice. We always think that practice is inscrutable, and the results have not been effective for a long time, and it is not only simple but also absolutely effective to practice according to these methods! thanksgiving. Buddhism says that "reporting four talents" is to repay the grace of the country, the grace of the parents, the grace of the teacher, and the grace of all beings. Why do you say that all beings do not talk about the grace of the people? Because the range of sentient beings is greater than the people. For example, the big tree is not the people, but it hides us for us and has grace for us; the grass provides us with oxygen and has grace for us. Therefore, we must repay the grace of all beings. How many blessings do you have in one's heart, and how many blessings a person has in his heart. For those who have complaints with us, we must forgive; for those who have grace with us, we must repay. There is no big newspaper like a big bag on the ground, and there is a big stone. It is also an obstacle. Everyone who has something to do with you must repay. Who helped you when you were in trouble? Who tells you when you are confused? Who helped you when you couldn’t afford the tuition? Don't put the money so tightly, even if you run out of money to report these graces, it's worth it! These methods are all making us worthwhile, not letting us have money. But as long as you are worth it, you will have money! So once people have done this, they are doing it, and growing up is very fast!