Yesterday I started a series where I share the lesson of life I have learnt so far. I may be young, but one thing I have come to understand is that experience doesn’t come to you because you are old or young, rather it comes based on the position you find yourself. True that position may be affected by your age, but it’s not always the case.
You can check out the previous post for the lessons I shared Here
For today, I have quite a few interesting and slightly controversial lessons. I hope you drop your opinion in the comment box, so I learn more.
Fun is underrated.
Now sit back and ask yourself,
***How much of my day is fun? ***
Like really fun?
Yea I'm guessing you must be getting sad numbers. The truth is, life is short. It can end at any moment, and just like that, it's all over. So you should enjoy it. Don't make things serious that don't have to be. Smile more, make people smile even more. Tell a joke or two here and there, create more fun in your life. Don't worry about what other people think of your fun. Just enjoy it, it’s yours, as is your life.
Failure is good.
I’m sure you must be thinking I’m crazy and I don’t know what I’m saying. But this is so true. That’s because we try so hard to avoid failure, but failure is the real evidence that we've had the courage to try. Often times we give up even before we just, all because we are afraid to fail. >But how would you know if you could do it?
Better question—How would you learn to do it if you don’t try and fail.
If you avoid failure, ultimately you avoid taking action.
No action=No change
No change=No growth
And anything that’s not growing is dying
So expect and accept that failure is part of the experience. Learn from it, grow from it, and become a better version of yourself.
Anger isn't worth it.
For me, this is the greatest lesson of all. Anger is like a wildfire, and it doesn't stop until it consumes both the initiator and the forest. Nobody wins when it comes to anger. Regret, Stress, heartache, and Unhappiness are the by-products of angry flare-ups. And the funniest thing is, it's so easy to let go off if you don't focus on the pain or hurt.
So learn healthier ways to communicate how you feel, and when anger arises, step away until you are calm.
Kindness matters.
I don't think there's any other action that rewards more than kindness. Yes, it may take a while, but when it comes, it's usually overwhelming. Small acts of kindness have an enormous positive impact on other people and on your own happiness. You may think its small to you, but it would be cherished in the hearts of those you show it to for a long time.
And it doesn't take much to be kind. Practice it every day and in every situation. I have seen the rewards it offers, believe me, some of them are mind-boggling.
Age is just a number.
This is one of the oldest lessons I've learned. I was about 15yrs old when life taught me this. I grew facial hair quite early, so I could pass for a 22yr old. So I always had this belief that the older you are the more matured you are, with the exception of me, since basically, all my friends were at least 3yrs older than me, even my girlfriend. Until I met an exceptional younger lady that blew my mind.
Our chronological age doesn't have to define us if you open your mind to the possibilities and abilities of everyone around. Don't dwell on that number and don’t allow it hold you back from being who you are inside. Just be yourself, no matter the people you find amongst you in a room. Honesty and sincerity come with points.
Grudges cause pain.
Grudges and anger are like two poisons from one snake. Anger leads to a grudge if it doesn't destroy you at first, then the grudge finishes what anger started. Holding on to a grudge is like injecting this venom into your blood every day. And your ego is like the syringe through which the venom is introduced. It would keep on preventing you from forgiving and letting something go because it needs to remain relevant.
And so would the poison, it would eat into the fabrics of your soul and won't stop until you decide to make it stop. You need to let go because it would keep getting in the way of your happiness and well-being.
Don't allow pain from your past to linger and cause you suffering. Don't pretend like it doesn't matter when it does.
So forgive and let go.
Stay tuned for the next part if comes out tomorrow, if you would like me to mention you when its out, please notify me by a comment.
