If you're unlucky enough to fall in love with a married man, turn and run the other way, just as fast as your legs can carry you because you will end up being doomed for life... Funny right?????. To continue down the path ahead is to walk willingly onto a dark, murky composed of little more than depression, heartbreak and futility and many more. The longer you refuse to, the more complicated your life will be and the more mud is likely to cling to you, and the harder it will be to finally escape and move on. it's the bitter truth and it's reality.
Here are only a few of the many challenges and disadvantages you'll experience if you become entangled in a relationship taken a solemn vow to love, honor and cherish another woman.
You'll be alone on vacations, major holidays and most weekends. These are family times. You may think you're important to him, but face it, you're not family. They have a prior claim on his time and his loyalty. You'll always be No. 2 and that's not fun!
He may promise to be with you when the children are grown, or when his parents have passed on, or when his wife is strong enough to stand alone but after all, he's a cheater and he's already lying to one woman. How can you possibly believe his promises?
Your friends and family will be against this relationship, because they love you and want only the best for you. You will not be able to discuss matters with them, and they certainly won't be welcoming him into their inner circle.
When you're out on town, he'll frequently look over his shoulder, not wanting to be seen in your company. When you're alone together, he'll often check his watch, needing to be home before his wife gets suspicious, He'll never be able to relax completely. Hence, neither will you.
What about those office parties, family birthdays, wedding, even funerals? You'll be attending these functions alone, with no visible partner to support you or keep you company. You'll be an object of pity and many will wonder what's wrong with you, and why you can't find a boyfriend.
Life is short and youth is fleeting. You are wasting valuable time when you should be laying a firm foundation for a bright future with someone you can trust. Wake up and smell the coffee. You deserve so much better than this two-timer.
To him, it's a fling, an enjoyable interlude in a marriage which is comfortable, but may have become routine. Stolen moments with you provide elements of thrill and danger to an otherwise humdrum existence.
Even if he says he's ready to leave home and set up household with you, consider this: If wife No. 1 couldn't trust him, why would you think wife No. 2 would be able to? You'll be taking on someone else's heartaches. Seriously now, who needs it?
Most serious of all, if there are children involved, think of them. He may not be much, but he's their dad. Are you willing to be responsible for breaking up their family? If they're old enough to remember that he left their mother because of you, it will be difficult to become an effective stepparent. They will never regard you, no matter how nice you turn out to be.. These are some few problem you may encounter as someone's side chick.
But have you ever imagine how annoying it is to share your lover not husband with your fellow lady, then imagine how painful it is for the spouse of the married man you are flirting with???????? IT IS SO SO SO WRONG
Use your willpower and your common sense and walk in the opposite direction as quickly as you can. As the old adage states, "There's plenty of fish in the sea". Why waste your valuable time, attention and talent on a stale, second-hand junk variety, someone that you know that will never be yours, no matter how much you try to paint the picture.... You deserve the best and there's more in you but you won't get to see it so easily because you are settling for something less than you deserve or should have.
It is better you know that " feelings" can sometimes cloud your judgement and you may take the wrong step and do the wrong things even more than you imagined that you may end up regretting all your life. However, thinking, reflecting and seeking good advice could help you make the "right" decision. And whatever decision you take or make in life, God shouldn't be out of it. So you don't end up majoring on the minor, and minoring on the major. Don't waste your youthful period dating the wrong guy. Ensure that you make the right choice, you don't end up regretting in future..
Don't let any one monkey you around, all in the name of LOVE......!!!!
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Be bold and brave enough to say NO to some offers and at the end, you'll be happy with most of the choices you took ignorantly
Love is a beautiful thing. And we are deserve to be loved and be in love with who ever we decide to give our love to.. BE SMART AT ALL TIME.