I accidentally saw a sentence on the Internet:
" The way adults end a relationship is not quarrel and collapse, but a silent alienation."
It's like the heart is already full of troops, but on the surface it is still quietly talking with you about what to wear today.
No noise, no publicity, as if seeing through all the clouds and light winds.
This state of affairs is actually quite comfortable.
Don't ask, quietly say goodbye
Once there was a close friend who had been dating for seven or eight years. After going to college, we went to different cities.
At first, we often contacted each other. WeChat commented and praised each other. On birthdays, we would send gifts to each other. When we were free, we would make several phone calls to talk about the current situation.
Later, as each other's studies and work became busier and busier, the people and things they came into contact had no intersection at all.
We are no longer in touch gradually, and even the circle of friends is seldom praised.
It was not until one day that I overheard another friend talking that I learned that she got married three months ago and left the profession she had loved for several years.
When I first heard that my friend got married without informing me, I thought I would be very sad. Once a good friend, I just broke off.
However, it seems that only a few seconds have been lost.
It turns out that we all played down each other's position in our hearts in the years.
The relationship between adults, in fact, sometimes, is really too fragile to stand the test of a little time. One no longer asked, one no longer said, so drifting away.
However, from another angle, life is a process of meeting and saying good-bye constantly. It is better to look at it lightly.
Friends are like tides, coming and going, then coming and going.
In the constant scouring of the tide, they brought beautiful shells and lovely little crabs in the sea.
These shells and small crabs make the whole beach lively, rich and interesting. They are the best gifts.
Just like friends, although they come and go, in the process, they must have left us many unforgettable and warm memories and spent a soft time with us, isn't that enough?
Therefore, regarding friendship, don't be too greedy and underestimate.
If you meet him, cherish him, if you miss him, try to let him go.
I think this is perhaps the most mature way for adults to end a relationship.
Don't pester, silently away from each other
I have seen two stories.
A girl A had a lover who had been deeply in love for a long time. When the relationship was about to come to an end, she was still unwilling to believe it.
On the one hand is self - esteem, on the other hand is a lover who cannot let go.
As a result, she kept telling each other how much she liked it, showing him the sweet photos they had taken, buying him many things he liked, and trying to recover the broken feelings.
However, when the other party does not love, it is useless to cry out again.
Finally, girl a's sweetheart left.
Similarly, there is the story of a girl B, who, like girl A, is also in love.
However, B was much more open-minded than A. When she realized that the other party was leaving, she did not question him with heart-wrenching questions or pester him humbly. She just tidied up her mood, collected her belongings and moved out of the house rented by two people on a sunny afternoon.
When we were young, we would cry and say " I won't play with you" when we were uncomfortable or when we were away from someone.
The way adults end a relationship is not quarrel and collapse, but a silent alienation.
The other party broke his heart, would not rush to find his theory, would not tear heart crack lung to pester him to ask why, but is no longer with him, withdraw the previous care and care for him, from the heart, slowly and slowly away from him.
Because gradually understand, constantly pestering to ask the reason, is a childish way, even if asked why?
The ending will not change, but will only increase their embarrassment.
Ending a wrong relationship may be painful. However, long pain is not as good as short pain.
Love is never about settling, but respecting each other and tolerating each other. To love a person, one should not let oneself be too humble to have dignity.
In this case, it is better to give yourself more dignity. Then start a new life.
You have to believe that there is always someone in this world who is hungry to eat with you, sleepy to sleep with you, crying to make you laugh.
The best is always in the end, leaving a decent for yourself and the best for him.
In the farewell and down, settle yourself, Xiangyang growth
We, who are immature, will cry, make noise and pester because we still have hope.
Adults end a relationship, don't cry, don't make noise, don't disturb, and don't expect to be explained.
In this life, people will eventually meet many people.
Friends or lovers, everyone who appears in your life has its meaning.
Those who love you give you warmth and courage. The person you love lets you learn how to love and share. People you don't like teach you how to be tolerant and respectful. People who don't like you, let you learn introspection and growth.
Life is like a journey. Some people get off at this stop and some get off at the next stop. It is already a great fate to be able to travel together.
When the person accompanying you wants to leave, learn to let go and stop indulging in past feelings.
Go out more and make new friends. No one can forget it. New friends will bring new surprises.
Read more. Different books have different interesting souls and thoughts. Many problems that bother you may be solved unconsciously in the process of reading.
Not really, just concentrate on making money. when you have enough money, you are very happy to eat what you want, buy what you want, and go where you want.
People in this lifetime, to put it bluntly, is nothing more than half memories, half is to continue.
People have to learn to look forward after all.
Let's say to those who have separated: I'm glad you can come.
A word of humanity to these people who have always stayed with me: We have sewn ourselves into each other's lives, and I will treasure every journey with you.
