I promise not to be too sappy, but it is the day of love. For some people it's the day of being reminded why your single, or wondering why your still single. For couples it's a day to show your appreciation and love for each other. However the biggest misconception I think we have is that we have to have a significant other to show love to and celebrate this day. That is not the case. Go out and show your parents you love them, your friends, sibblings, coworkers? I don't know find a stranger if you don't have any of those things. Maybe you'll fall in love.
I fall into the couple category, I am extremely, extremely lucky to have my girlfriend. Together we have learned and taught each other how to love again, and we're continuing to learn every day. You're probably thinking, "What the hell does this 25 year old kid know about love?" Not much but I do know quite a bit about our love. I do know that this is the woman I am meant to be with. I do know that we communicate in a very similar love language. I do know that what we have is special and will last a lifetime.
How could I know all these things just over a year and a half into our relationship? You heard me talk about love languages. There are 5 love languages that we communicate and accept love through. First one is receiving gifts, then quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch. Mlove and I understand exactly how we speak our language of love and I must say when you understand these things it significantly improves the communication and happiness of your relationship. The needs of each person are understood and met. You are now making a conscious effort to express your love for this person by communicating it in these ways.
I think a huge common misconception is that love just is. You're just going to see someone or dance with someone or kiss someone and just know. No, that is a very, very small part of the equation. Obviously there has to be a degree chemistry and attraction in the beginning however the relationship will never be able to solely run on that. Relationships have to evolve and become more than just attraction. It's communication, deep understanding of each other and our needs, and accepting the past, good and bad, that created the amazing people we are today.
If anything at all today take the time to love yourself. Feel good about the things you do for others out of love, tell yourself, "God damn I am one awesome son of bitch!" When you love yourself you give everyone else the best you naturally. You don't have to think about how you feel, your insecurities don't cross your mind, you are vulnerable but free from everything that has ever held you back from being 100% you.
That's how I know I'm in love. I am just me for the first time in a long time.
Special thanks to Mlove Olivia for teaching me more than I could ever imagine about myself and being loved.
Hope you enjoy yourself Steemers!
Go love and treat ya self!!
