Love is not just a feeling ! It is a way of life and a choice. We fall in love but it is difficult to stay in love and have the courage to surmount an obstacle.
Today we are in an era where we don't want to face the problems and we prefer run away from them. We just want to live the good moments and when the storm arrive we prefer drop what we have for a place with no storm, no storm yet !
Everybody wonder how to make a couple last, if we had the answer there will be no divorce anymore. Maybe, everybody have the answer but they don't want to make what is necessary.
Love is almost like a kid, we have to feed him, support him, learn from him, teach him to make it grow and cure him when he is sick.
There many way to maintain a relashionship :
Try to understand :
In a couple, there are two persons so two different versions. Sometimes we just think that our version is the best or that we are alwas right. But our truth is often not the true. So we have to listen the other and try to understand his/her feelings.Take an intesrest in the other :
Your are different, who says that is a serious problem ? The problem is where you want it to be. Th difference could be a strenght. Sometimes it can be annoying cause whe wonder if we would be more happy with a person who looks like us. At the end is more important to focus of what our partner bring us and the little things he/she has that we don't see in other people.
Take an interest of what your partner love and share what you love with him. It is a way to know each other better and maybe discover something in common.Communicate :
It make sense but the majority of people don't do it or they think that they do it but it is false. It can be hard to say what we feel especially when we can hurt the other but it is necessary. The communication enable to understand the other and know if he/she is happy in the relationship.Support the other :
What is important for your partner is important for you. If the other has a dream, an opportunity, a project, try to be here for him/her. The support make that the other feel important for you and that he/she is can have a protection from you. Believe in the other to make him/her feel better and more confident.Give if the other give :
In a lot of relationship, there are always the person who gives and the person who takes. If you are in this type of relationship and you feel you give all you have but the other doesn't do the same… RUN AWAY. In a couple, each person have to give and receive. It is a sharing. You are sharing your bodies, feelings, fears, pleasure, time etc...
I have a trick that I try to do, for me is important to never go to bed when your angry with the other. Try to resolve the problem before you go to bed.
So this for me the first five tricks to have an healthy relationship. If you like it, I could give you a part two ;)
Finally, it is my vision of life. I don't guarantee that your couple is gonna last for life cause sometimes two persons are just not made to be together but a couple is a work and we have to know our job.
Bye and have a nice day !