LOVE IS NOT GOOD?
This thing called love sef... It's such a wonderful feeling. Have you ever fallen in love? He loves me. I love everything about her. We are in love. I love them dearly. These and many more are popular statements associated with love.
But what is love? According to Websters Dictionary, the main definition of love is: a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person
So is love just a feeling?
In most cases (not all), women tend to exhibit more feelings and emotions than the men. So does it mean that they love more than men do? Some others believe that most men show their love with actions. Someone once said "acts of kindness are better than feelings of love". So does this make men to be the ones whose love is the more original? Well, some will tell you that men are good at masking their emotions with actions so that what you think is a show of love may just be a facade. So you find a man showering gifts and some attention on a woman he claims to love and the woman and people are carried away with his actions not knowing that he is planning to get married to someone else in someplace. I'm sure women also mask their feelings but I guess it's not as frequent or pronounced as men.
So experiences of people in love...can most people with these experiences say its been pleasant most of the way or unpleasant most if the way? One my steemit friends in his post https://steemit.com/ita/@stea90/i-chain-my-heart talks about someone who keeps having bad experiences in love causing him and others hurt. This made the said person decide that he would from henceforth keep his heart chained and not to allow love enter anymore to avoid the hurts. I believe some of these hurts came as a result of misunderstanding, little issues that got out of hand, problems that could have been managed or avoided or masterminded by third parties.
This brings me back to my topic: LOVE IS NOT GOOD?
In other words, is love really and generally, a good or bad thing?
I'm sure a lot if people will say it's a good thing, with evidence and proof. I'm sure love brings a lot if good feelings and pleasant experiences we have experienced, read about or watched in movies. Before you go ahead and conclude, let me share this...
I remember one of my godmothers, Madam Patience, telling me that she doesn't think love is a good thing. I asked her why. She was someone I really respected and got advice from. She has been happily married with kids and she and her husband love each other dearly. I say this because I've known them for years and spent time with them. She said she loves him so much that it's almost as if she can't do without him. She said she loves him so much that if something should happen to him she wouldn't survive it. She said the thought of this alone scares her so much such that she felt its not normal for one to love another human being that way. That it could make a person go crazy or commit suicide or murder if something went wrong.
So, I ask... LOVE, IS IT GOOD?