…continued… from part 1.
Never ignore loyalty. Be loyal to a fault. Defend him when there is a need for it. Don’t pick sides against him. You can call him in your closet and correct him based on what you think he has done wrong, but don’t join the accusing fingers out there to bring him down. Stick with him, defend him and he will never forget it in a heartbeat. He would gladly listen to you when you point out his faults, because he knows you are loyal and would never fault him without a reason.
As earlier mentioned, honesty matters in a relationship; sincerity matters. Once a man notice your sincerity in actions and feelings, he would not assume your intentions, he would trust every intention because he knows you always want the best for him. Without sincerity there can be no trust. You want him to trust you? Be sincere. Would you trust someone that constantly lies to you, whose word you can’t vouch for? I guess not. Trust is to be earned and only with sincerity; honesty can you earn the trust of your partner. Learn to leave shady past. Learn to cut people you don’t want to see in your future off. Learn to separate the place for your spouse and that of your friends. There are some things you don’t negotiate in a relationship, more so marriage and that is honesty.
Relationship boils down to character; to values. What are your value systems? When the purpose of your relationship is not known, abuse is inevitable. You need to sit down with your partner and state what is important and what you will never negotiate in your relationship. Date someone you can trust with your emotions, someone that would never mess with it, someone that would be considerable enough to be sensitive to how you would feel. Don’t rush it, just take your time.
Ladies, you always allow your emotions to cloud you and this is why ladies talk sometimes rash. Ladies have been tagged with talking before reasoning but it shouldn’t be like that. Your character matters. Don’t focus mainly on your outlooks and forget who you should be on the inside. If a guy falls for you based on how you look, your beauty won’t be enough to keep him longer, but only your character can keep him, long after everything else fades.
Your beauty won’t last forever, no matter how it is today. Focus on that which is important.
Harsh words break no bone but you can be sure it breaks heart. A hundred bones with no heart is no life. So, young lady, how many people have you killed? You need to watch your approach, your character and your words. You are a lady, and you should always act like one; with class. When you wound others with your words, more so your partner, you become malevolent. Be careful how you talk, how you act and what you say, Approach matters a lot to guys, it determines how long they would listen to all you have to say.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.