Cheating causes countless relationships to break up. But still quite a lot of people cheat. And both sexes are equally unfaithful. And an affair happens more often than you might think: Scientists assume that about 40 to 80 percent of the partners are cheating on each other.
But why do so many people actually cheat? What is so fascinating about an affair?
In this article I would like to give you some reasons why cheating is so often considered.
Reason 1: The ego needs confirmation
The ego underpins this construct by external confirmation. It's always looking for proof that we are good, valuable and loved. After many years the butterflies in the stomach have vanished, the compliments are always the same and we look in vain for recognition and confirmation.
Many interpersonal conflicts arise in the partnership because the ego feels offended. It will then do its utmost to restore the status quo. This can lead to partners cheating.
Reason 2: Neglect of partnership - inner emptiness
Yes, life is very stressful. But rightly or wrongly, the partner may feel that daily carelessness means that he or she doesn't matter to you anymore.
The lack of attention of the partner, which is also accompanied by a lack of sexual passion, can lead to inner emptiness and dissatisfaction.You see, when you were "in love", you had this inner feeling that you would always be there enough for your beloved. As the initial love hormones decrease, small attentive gestures of attention and affection often decrease.
In figures, about 85 percent of women and about 79 percent of men complain about a lack of and unsatisfactory sex with their partner. This is mainly due to insufficient communication and can sooner or later lead to a fling.
The partner lets himself hang and no longer pays as much attention to his appearance as he had done then.
Reason 3: The fear of missing something
The fear of missing something is something many of us have experienced before. It happens when we start to feel nervous because we don't participate in social events, such as a fantastic party where each of your friends went to.
This fear can lead to deep dissatisfaction and depression. The latest studies have even shown that this fear is intensified by social media like Facebook, since you also have to look at the photos to see how happy everyone was at this party.
During a longer relationship, these fears also arise, especially if you are not sure whether you have bound too quickly and have chosen the wrong partner.Also mentioned: It's last minute panic. It's the fear of not having had a full sexual experience. But beware: this thought can ALWAYS come true after a long relationship. After all, nobody can be perfect. So that's no reason to see cheating as a possible option.
Reason 4: Too much alcohol
Among other things, alcohol has a disinhibitory, anxiolytic and euphoric effect. The mood is rising, the flirt factor is high. Since these symptoms show also with the opposite sex partners, it is easy to come together on silly thoughts. But if you want to cheat, you can get a few more glasses on your trail.It's just a pity that sometimes you can't remember anything when you're cheating. But it may also be an advantage... Because unfortunately (or fortunately) the demands are also decreasing and hence the well-known sentence: "Women drink beautifully".
Reason 5: The Affair of Vengeance
If one learns by a stupid coincidence that one's own partner has cheated on one, it can happen that the foaming rage triggers desire for revenge. And sometimes you just want to let out those revenge feelings. Revenge is sweet, as you know.
To get confirmation for one's own ego while cheating, one gives the partner a damper for his ego. After all, the relationship is already so doomed to failure that you no longer really love your partner and want to see him suffer. Happiness is the most beautiful joy.
Reason 6: Social Media - Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp and Co.
It has never been easier to meet new people: Tinder, Instagram, Facebook etc..... there are countless opportunities to make new contacts or revive old ones.
For example, Tinder flirts with strangers without ever having seen them personally, or Facebook photos have the "Like" button clicked by handsome men... Beware, this can trigger pathological jealousy in your partner...
Moreover, the beautiful, big world of the stars is so close that the dream of a better life and a better partner, who looks big and muscular, has a lot of money and a gentleman seems tangible. Beautiful new world.
Can cheating also do the relationship good?
Maybe a fling can rekindle love and drive the passion. Sometimes the fling at the right time can be an enrichment for the relationship. However, you should think carefully, and possibly plan it together with your partner... but beware, this can quickly go down your pants.
A final note:
People should take an example from penguins. Once they have become a couple, they usually stay together for a lifetime.