Believe it or not, love, like almost everything in this life, is learned. And, sometimes, we learn incorrectly.
Some of these beliefs about love, if they become extreme, can damage the couple. Let's find out what they are about
- The four main misconceptions about love
1.- The love is the base on which the couple is sustained.
What defines a good relationship is, in addition to the three components mentioned above, good communication, a good system of reinforcement between them, respect, trust and a good way of solving problems together.
These and many other factors are true love.
2.- The love is spontaneous, unexpected, fortuitous, unpredictable: you can not control who you fall in love with.
Where is that written? Spontaneity in love is not entirely true: it requires predisposition on the part of the person.
Love is not something magical that happens without more, without that we can do anything to avoid it.
Each person chooses who he falls in love with because, in order for love to exist in that relationship, there must be all those components that do not arise mysteriously, but must be worked on and achieved.
3.- An idea closely related to the latter is the following: love, as it appears without being able to control it, can also disappear without us being able to solve it.
This is a belief that has a lot to do with the idea that love means falling in love. Falling in love is only a phase of love.
If we believe that those emotions and feelings that are experienced at the beginning of the relationship are those that will always send in the couple, we are very wrong
4.- And the last false idea: love can do everything. Perhaps "everything" is to generalize excessively.
Love can with almost everything, but not with everything. Basically you can with the things that you decide, according to what you have learned throughout the whole relationship (and what each one learned on their own).
It may be that one of the two is able to overcome one difficulty that the other does not; That's why communication and negotiation are so important in times of conflict in the couple.
Therefore, only with love is not enough.
We can basically have many prejudices and barriers when entering into a relationship, usually false ideas about love are the first obstacle to grow a relationship and prevail over time. It is necessary that we learn to eliminate these false ideas about love as soon as possible so that our life as a couple is as full as possible, without ghosts or mirages in between.
Love is one of the most powerful and universal feelings that exist, having its own characteristics and ideas that, at times, are not entirely true. If these beliefs become extreme, they can damage the relationship you have with your partner...
