I am always in disdain when I hear about how marriage scatters this day. It is not a new thing under this heaven that young marriage spoils nowadays in a twinkle of an eye.
Many young people in marriage found it difficult to understand that the most devilish attitude that spoils marriage is EGO. Most couples found it difficult to succumb for each other. There is an adage that always says " When wife is doing like a goat, the husband should do like a ram", this is just to handle the paddle of your marriage firmly.
I research on how EGO spoils marriage and below are the result of what I found; enjoy and amend it in your marriage.
First thing to consider is never to feel regret about your past or about your negative points. Even you must never think that you are best in any of your quality. Every person has some negative and some positive points, thus stop regretting or feeling proud. Your partner is equally intelligent and responsible as you are, you know some things better than your partner and your partner knows some things better than you. Proud and regrets both increase your ego.
You are also likely to spoil your relationship when you keep praising yourself in front of others because it doesn't help much to impress them, in fact it slowly increases your ego and make you overconfident. If you have habit of telling others about your achievements or success every time when you get into conversation with others then you can get trapped with ego problems easily. So, praising yourself must be in limits.
Meanwhile, many people think that they always think and do right things, but this is not true. The fact is many time what we think is right, can actually impact badly in our life. Thus, while discussing with your partner about any topic, try to think the way he/she is thinking. It is not necessary that you always oppose what your partner want to say or he/she is not enough mature to give you suggestions. This tendency increases your ego problem. When you try to think like your partner, you can easily come out of your ego problem and become broader minded.
It is not funny atimes when Sometimes when you say such things like “I am good for nothing “or “I don’t look good” and wait people to give you compliment that “no, you look beautiful”. People generally make habit of listening only good things about themselves, which are sometimes fake and just to make you happy. When your partner says the right things about you, your ego hurts very easily. Thus, beware of listening fake praise or keep yourself away from people who keep on flatter you , this will increase your ego problem and you will find difficult to receive criticism. This is always happen when guys are forming in front of their woman's friend.
To reduce the disagreement between you and your partner, you have to avoid your EGO. Ego should never appear in between loved ones because it destroys the dignity and integrity of marriage.
A times, your parent may be the one financing your marriage, that should not come and twinkle your head and start misbehaving in your marriage. Marriage is an institution that no one ever graduates in.
Tomorrow, I am going to talk about Selfishness in marriage......
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