Getting over someone you once loved so much is
never an easy thing. It takes time depending on
one's feelings and the love they had for that
person. Some people take months, years and
others a life time. But getting over someone has
to start with you.
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First of all, you have to accept it in your heart
that the relationship didn't work out for a reason.
Either it was your own making or theirs. But the
point is it wasn't meant to be. When you
understand that, then you have to get yourself
together and move on because that's not the
end
of your life.
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Secondly, you have to forgive them for whatever
thing they did or said to you that hurt you. And
you should also forgive yourself for being lied on,
used, fooled, and for whatever bad thing you did
to them. Forgiveness sets the heart free from
pain and it allows healing to take place.
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Thirdly, you have to cut off the communication
from them. Unless you had kids with them but
don’t contact them again (in case they call or
text you, don’t rush to pick or reply them. And
when you pick up or text back don’t give them
much of your time), stop checking them out on
the internet to know what’s new in their life
(don’t delete or block them because you might
need them with time for them to see how happy
and strong you will be without them), and avoid
those friends who bring rumors to you
concerning
them.
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Fourth, don’t venture into those places you used
to hang in with them until you are fully healed
because they will bring back the memories and
that will refresh the wounds you are trying to
heal.
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Fifth, remove all the memory triggers. In this I
mean all those things that remind you of them.
The gifts, the photos, the text messages… Don’t
burn them but just keep them out of your reach.
When you keep them around you, they will always
remind you of them.
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Sixth, avoid being alone. Keep around trusted
friends and family members. Have fun and enjoy
your life with them.
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Seventh, make yourself busy with something
productive. It may be a career, or a hobby. This
will save you from being a lone, reminiscing
about
everything and second guessing all what
happened.
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Eighth, work on yourself. In this I mean, eat a
balance diet and perform some exercises, go to
the gym… all this will make you look well and it
will keep your body in shape.
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Then lastly, but not the least pray about it. Tell
God all your heart burdens.
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Share all your pain to Him and ask him to help
you find some better
and that you deserve.
I’m sure if you put all this into consideration you
won’t remain the same. Just like I told you, I
have been there many times but I did the same
things and here I am now. I’m happy and life is
going on very well. You too can get over them
and you can be happy again.
Be strong & take care of yourself
Blessings,
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