Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectations. We don’t love to be loved. We love to love.
True love always demand you to drop the things that are hindering your soul's evolution, such as vanity, jealousy, neediness, the feeling of loneliness from the illusion of physical separation...and most painfully, the huge EGO, through which to make you more self-sufficient and whole - that's the beauty of God's design.
Why do many people find the relationship with people they love most at heart difficult to work out and eventually choose to settle with someone more "practical" or "realistic"? God has brilliant ways to have souls learn unconditional love. Everyone is just a mirror of yourself, a reflection of yourself from different angels. Just LISTEN TO YOUR HEART, and LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL. At any moment, just go for the highest excitement from your heart without any expectations or attachment for any outcome. If it’s your highest excitement at this moment to date a certain guy, just go for it. When the relationship turns sour, when it’s not serving you anymore, just walk out of it, just letting go, without any attachment whatsoever. Most people go for their excitement but with too many expectations or attachment, hence the suffering. If a person is pushing your buttons, then they mirror back to you something you have not made peace within your very own life and deep inner self. While everyone else are mirrors of yourself to certain degrees, your soulmates or twin flame are the best mirrors, and the ones that pushes your button in every possible way. That's why usually twin flames can only reunion peacefully and smoothly in their last human incarnation, when their consciousness has developed to the stage that they're self-sufficient, able to love each other the way they are, unconditionally, and allow each other to be their true self. All the feelings of happiness, etc should come from within, if you expect your soul mate or twin flame to offer you something you need, you're doomed to be disappointed, because what you're lacking are exactly what they're lacking. You will be very happy in any relationship if you drop all your expectations from every relationship and gives for the sake of giving. so my advice is, learn how to love unconditionally, without any expectation or attachment. Whatever you need, love, security, caring, warmth etc…should all come from inside, not outside. If you rely on someone else to give you any of this, you’re doomed to suffer.
One of the biggest dysfunctional emotions created by the illusion of distance and time is - LONELINESS. And therefore, we become insecure, needy and clingy.
Love does not fade over time. It may appear to be fading because of various emotional blockages accumulated over time that need to be healed/released. Mutual nurturing with love is very important. A golden rule is: Do not act on your emotions, observe it as it goes away.
People who have strong connections in their present life usually also have many connections in the past. Couples who have a suffering relationship usually have many lifetimes being together suffering. There is a reason so many souls are trapped in the “wheel of karma” on earth for hundreds of millions of years. Old pattern repeats itself over and over again. However as I said, futures are a range of unlimited possibilities, is there a possibility that you can have an enjoyable relationship in this lifetime? Yes of course! But, both of you need to change and break the old pattern, not only one person, which needs lots of guidance and conscious efforts.
Why bother to try to kill love? It never dies. Trying to kill it or forget about it only make yourself painful. Love is a beautiful thing, why not transcend it instead of killing it? Check out what the conditions are that make this love painful, and transcend the love to more unconditionality. 💗😊
Thank you for reading. 🙂
