What constitutes a perfect partner? What attributes make up the best partners and how do couples make relationships last for decade upon decade? We've all seen that perfect happy mature couple who have been together for over fifty years, have a healthy and vital relationship, and are incredibly content with each other.
So, how do they do it? Are they just freaks of nature holding onto some crazy old notion of marriage and relationships? Are they just lucky or what? What does this couple have that others are lacking? I think that everyone would agree there are a few little things most couples could do better to strengthen the bond they already have with their partner and make their lives together happier and more fruitful.
What makes relationships strong? How do they stand the test of time, mother's in law, or busy and competitive work schedules? Two of the most important characteristics of a working and successful relationship are listening and attentiveness; these may seem obvious and incredibly trivial concepts, but they are critical to a healthy partnership and, quite honestly, often taken for granted and neglected.
Listen to your partner...it's as simple as that. Don't just hear what they are saying, actually listen, understand, and absorb the information you are being given and use it to strengthen your bond and grow closer to your partner. People drop a lot of hints about what they like and, more importantly, what they dislike; they almost unconsciously reveal what they want, prefer, or desire and it is up to you to pick up on these clues and use them.
Being an attentive lover will clue you into your partner's rhythms and cycles. It will get you in tune with each other and, hence, make lovemaking a more rewarding and intimate experience for you both. Many people forget the fact that if your lover is happy and satisfied they will make it a priority to ensure that the same is happening for you. What can be better for the longevity of a relationship and the general happiness of both partners than exciting and fulfilling sexual experiences?
I am no scientist or doctor, however, the people I know who are in a healthy and successful relationship look younger, act younger, usually live longer. They have smiles on their faces, their eyes are bright and shiny, and their skin seems to glow. And remember this, sex is a cardiovascular activity, so the more you do it the better shape you'll be in.
Intercourse raises the heart rate and increases circulation. This reaction in turn burns more calories and therefore burns more fat! So remember this, the more you have healthy and gratifying sex with your partner, the more healthy and skinnier you'll be. Sounds like the perfect remedy for many a miserable person, doesn't it? If everybody just had a little more good sex with their partners the world would be a happier, healthier, and safer place to be in. After all, if everyone was spending their time having great sex they wouldn't have time to be miserable.
So please do everyone around you a favor and listen to what your partner is telling you and understand the clues they are giving you. Be attentive to their needs, wants and desires so that you may be better able to understand what is wanted and expected of you. An attentive and understanding lover is part of the formula for a loving and caring intimate union. A satisfied lover is happier and more appreciative as well as healthier!