We live in a consumer society in which we are all accustomed to receiving what we want quickly and easily in one way or another. It is so with the ties or at least the similarity of connections, because nowadays everyone is fleeing from them as a devil of incense, or wants them so desperately that they are still alone.
Some run away because they have been hurt, others are simply fleeing from responsibility, others are just looking for entertainment for one night, the fourth is being condemned to abstinence in waiting for the one. The truth is that in sex, as in love, there are no rules. Unfortunately, despite their lack, it became true that while the kiss itself was a clear sign of commitment, today you may break out of sex and still do not know what you are.
Sex for one night
Is sex a dating occasion? It would be nonsense if you answered "no" to this question. It turns out that for example, you will go to the bar, you will see the super-sexy type/chick on the next table, you will smile twice, it will come to meet you, you will have a fun conversation, spend the evening together and no one will think "What if...".
Of course, at this stage, in most cases, you are very attracted to each other and hormones play a major role, but conversation and exploration are no less important. It is clear that you both want to. And here begins with the prejudices of the woman: "Now what do you think after I slept with him at the first meeting? And maybe I want something more ...".
For so many years, women have suppressed their sexual desires under the pressure of society and religion, that you may wonder why there are so many chicks in our midst - that's why. Emancipation is delighted, some more. And this is welcome for most men, but they also do not lack prejudices in this respect.
A girl decides to sleep with someone at the first meeting and is already tagged with a person who does not get in touch. If the sex was very good, then go to the "bootie call" column. But how can you categorize a man solely and solely by his one-time decision for an evening of his life that you do not know about? Maybe this girl has not had sex for more than a year, and for the first time, she dares to allow another person to herself to be spontaneous and free.
And the boy, on the other hand, can only seek sex, but find something more in it. In any case, if you both feel relieved enough and attracted to sleeping at the first meeting, release yourself from your prejudices, be yourself and do not hurry to judge, but get to know the man against you. This can definitely be the love of your life if you give her a chance, and let's say it straight - after all, both sexes seek closeness, understanding, and love in one way or another.
Sex for more than one night
When sex for one night is good enough, it goes into the above. This is a good reason to get to know the other not only physically, but with a little clarification - provided he is given the chance to spend quality time with the other. Good sex is a great foundation to build, but few people realize it. Many such "couples" limit the time spent together, only to the bed intentionally. So they do not give themselves any chance of real understanding and quality communication outside of it.
Man is a social animal - such a restriction from any country would negatively affect those relationships. Therefore, even in sexual relations, it is nice to enter with pure intentions and mostly conscientious-minded conscience, otherwise, you risk having fun and sipping the cue afterward. Karma is a bitch.
Sex is also a form of trust - we are not naked in front of everyone, nor are we giving everyone to touch us this way. It also requires reciprocity: if you want proximity - give in, want to wish you - wish if you want to make gestures to you - do. One response according to the attitude he or she receives from the other side - if it is limited to only one sex, you will hardly get more than that.
At the same time, press down on your desire to give yourself away for someone who does not appreciate you. When one knows the price, there are no limitations on the other, and there is quality communication with him, there is no reason why sex for more than one night should not become much more.
Sex with a friend
Once a person has become your friend and you are not together, then there is a good reason to do so. Usually, this is a person with whom you feel some emotional proximity, but perhaps not so sexual. That's why you have to be careful with this sex - in the general case, one always falls in love unassigned (or already in love).
Here, because of the history of this friendship, it is a bit difficult to have no bias, but the open mind of something new, perhaps a new stage of this relationship, could help a happy end. Clearly, in this case, any intention or thought on the subject is expressed and can be discussed, that is, communication already exists, and it is much easier to develop more serious relationships in the event that sex is rushed.
Sex with the former
Sex with the former is probably wonderful until you somehow touch your past and recall why you've split up. Perhaps it is possible for both of you to have changed and things this time, but this requires a high emotional intelligence on both sides, which is nowadays a rare occurrence. If you both can only communicate with crew performances - well, it is unlikely that you were a lot more.
Either way, here too there are a bunch of prejudices related to the past, friends, parents, society. If you have found that you have not been happy for a long time without this person, and he makes you smile and want to try again, enter into this relationship with an open heart. Shut the past, forgive your mistakes, learn from them, and ask for the same on the other side. After all, as Petkanov and Bogdanska married after all the infidelities and public humiliation, why can not you again get together?
Sex with the future
And here the most important thing for a future relationship is to enter into relationships with the other person without being prejudiced. Sticking labels without knowing the person based on 1-2 meetings, your past, or a few statements by friends/acquaintances will not help you get in touch with anyone. Whether she will sleep with you at the first or 21st meeting does not make her light or frigid.
If she sleeps with you on the first night, it's usually because you really attract her, not because she's a habit and wants only sex. And, on the other hand, can deliberately make you wait and test you to see how much you hold it. Finally, she may even wait for you to make her like you more. And all this, imagine, you can only learn by talking to her and getting to know her better.
The bad thing is that nowadays no one is waiting for these relationships to develop normally. While downloading and getting to know, there are usually at least two people involved to have something to do during the rest of the time, not to feed on it too much or to be boring because you are not sure of it, and a bunch of other stupid reasons associated with your ego much more than with your desire to have a new, meaningful relationship with that person.
Adding to this and the tendency for men not to move the little finger to the woman, the expectation of having sex without relationships, and the fact that there are always women who are given without a gram of effort, it seems perfectly normal that the connections today do not just are in fashion. This is quite sad, considering the fact that both sexes are looking for proximity, understanding, warmth, and actually live in loneliness, which they often create themselves.
Although we live in the 21st century and enjoy all of its technological advantages and modern amenities, it seems that, as far as sex and relationships are concerned, we have come back and they have degenerated into a mix of ego, interests, prejudices, heart failure, emotional instability, and public opinion tax. Romance has died, and some fanaticism has come to its surface in the superficial senselessness in which we change the partners in bed more often than the sheets on it.
We have forgotten how to communicate in a good way, and some even did not even know how, nor did they want to learn, although this negatively affects their lives every day. That is why it is time to stop giving that importance to sex and return to the original human values: loyalty, dignity, honor, loyalty, commitment.
Yes, sex is important, but how much better is he when there are feelings, respect, and two open minds about the opportunities ahead? It is the exchange of energy between the partners, as is any quality communication between them. Let us not reduce sex to a physiological need, but not exaggerate it as the greatest entertainment because sex gives us the human closeness we need every day.
Much love - Krisii
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