A study on factors that influence relationships always focus mostly on girls. But these days much attention have been shifted to the men because it can be observed without much doubt that men of nowadays tend to show a preference or make an approach for less prettier girls.
In the years past men always wanted to be in relationships with girls who possessed certain features such as a pretty face, tall, smaller jaw bone, bigger boobs, bigger butt, right curves, bright eyes etc. All in all, they wanted girls who had striking beauties and were attractive because it boosted their ego. But the same thing can’t be said these days. I was chatting with a male friend a few days ago and along the line we got into a conversation about men and their criteria for dating or getting into a relationship with someone. While he argued that men wanted to date the attractive or more physically beautiful girls, that they would be publicly proud of. I told him that i personally had a different ideology. I believe that a man gets attracted to a girl and sometimes falls in love with her for who she is and how she carries herself. A lady doesn’t necessarily need to be strikingly beautiful to attract the kind of man she wants. She might not even need to be pretty at all or possess all the curves in the right spots for her to get the attention of mister romantic.
My findings show that guys of these days suffer from complex, even the very handsome ones. 70% of guys nowadays find approaching a very pretty girl of their taste a heavy task that is to an extent un-achievable due to a lack of self esteem and a fear of being embarrassed or humiliated by those girls. This factor is a major reason why most pretty girls are still single because they get very less attention and hardly get in contact with men. The same men feel they have a better success rate when they walk up and talk to a girl who to them is less more attractive. It is the reason why the “Okay” girls get a lot of proposals these days that they even get to become choosy.
People can judge for themselves how attractive they are by the amount of attention they are receiving, whether it’s good attention or bad attention. Most “not too pretty” girls get too much attention to an extent that some of them start having a feeling that they are pretty or possess hidden beauties. My candid advise to guys is to stop being intimidated by pretty girls, try to make an approach for any girl you feel suits your taste. The pretty girls are not usually as hostile as you think they are. Forget about the feeling of getting embarrassed or humiliated, because that mindset can cause you to settle for someone less than you deserve. Some men don’t approach the pretty girls because they feel they might have been taken by someone else, very laughable but true. Sometimes this girls leave hints but you fail to pick up on the bombs and it is very hurtful on their path. You don’t expect her to make the first move, 98% of girls won’t do that, so you are expected to make the move. Not like girls don’t approach guys at all, 2% of girls do. The only problem girls have with walking up to a guy they like is because 70-80% of men would regard them as being slutty. Men are mostly mistaken about girls who are slutty and the genuine good girls.
My advise to the pretty girls who are worried and sometimes get hurt because they are getting less more attention is that beauty is very subjective. In your eyes, you could be far prettier than those girls that you see getting all the attention. But the girl you call ‘not beautiful’ could be gorgeous in the eyes of the guy who’s talking to her. If it’s easier to grasp this way, think of it in terms of celebrities. I personally think Taylor Swift is really pretty but that Rihanna is not as pretty. A lot of people would disagree and say that Rihanna is gorgeous or that Taylor Swift is not so pretty that is why men are not so obsessed about her the way they are with Rihanna. Beauty is all in the eyes of the beholder. I’m sure you and your friends don’t always agree on which celebrity guys are hot. It’s all based on the individual’s opinion, you know? The best way to deal with this is remind yourself that there will be guys out there that will find you attractive and posses enough guts to walk up to you. Just because you’re not seeing them now doesn’t mean they don’t exist. I know it’s hard to keep that in mind but it really does help.
The pretty girls for sure may get more looks and stares and wolf whistles, catcalls and stuff. But what about guys approaching them and asking them out? I’ve heard a mixture of answers from previous discussions about this topic. What is your opinion on this?