We are who we are because of our past lives. I had a dysfunctional one, just like you say, many others did too. I do however feel that we need to reconnect with that dysfunctionality to heal our future selves. But that's just my opinion, I respect yours too :)

Out of curiosity - why is being feminine a bad thing in your eyes? You say it as if it's a negative trait, a man sounding feminine?